My Black is Beautiful! – Part One

In celebrating Black History month a would love to share my experiences with racism.

Breaking the Chains of Internalised Racism: A Path Towards Self-Acceptance and Community Healing

In the heart of societal structures around the globe, racism has not only permeated the fabric of daily interactions but has also seeped into the minds and hearts of those it marginalises. Internalised racism, a by-product of systemic oppression, is perhaps one of the most insidious forms of racial prejudice, as it lodges within the psyche of the oppressed, manifesting in self-hatred, a sense of inferiority, and, at times, the perpetuation of racism within one's own community. This article aims to shed light on internalised racism, its impact, and the journey towards healing and empowerment.

?Understanding Internalised Racism

Internalised racism occurs when individuals from marginalised groups absorb and accept the prejudiced views and stereotypes about their own races, propagated by the dominant culture. This psychological battle not only corrodes self-esteem but also perpetuates a cycle of racism, affecting community cohesion and personal identity.

My struggle was always my hair, growing up in a world where I have aways been the only black child in the classroom, the only black woman in an IT team, the only black person in the workplace, the only black person in my neighbourhood……. accepting the beauty of the texture of my hair and the colour of my skin had been a struggle. Until one day when I was living in Cape Town during Apartheid in South Africa; I was on the bus going home from the hairdressers. I had just spent a substantial amount of money having my hair chemically straightened and was feeling good about how I looked.

I overheard two white women sitting behind me talking about my hair and one of them said, “It’s so straight and stiff it doesn’t even blow in the wind.”

That statement was the turning point of my journey to self-love…………. I realised that I had been trying so hard to conform with what the society I was living in considered beautiful. I got home and got a shaver and cut off all my hair, right down to the skin. My poor husband came home and could not recognise me. I looked like a little bold headed boy with my hair shaved off. I decided then to grow my hair back in it natural form and have never looked back.

Historical Context and Systemic Roots

The roots of internalized racism lie deep within the history of colonisation, slavery, and systemic discrimination. Policies and societal norms have historically reinforced racial hierarchies, subtly embedding the notion of superiority and inferiority among different races. Understanding this context is crucial in recognising that internalised racism is not a personal failure but a systemic one.

The Manifestations of Internalised Racism

From the colourism in media representations to the preference for Eurocentric beauty standards, internalised racism can manifest in various aspects of life, including education, employment, and interpersonal relationships. It can lead to individuals devaluing their cultural heritage, altering their appearances, or distancing themselves from their community.

I grew up in Apartheid Rhodesia when black and white people did not mix and then Zimbabwe watching my cousins and aunts using skin lightening creams to lighten up their dark skin and straightening their hair. The most popular cosmetic in most African countries is skin lightening creams and fortunately my mother warned my sister and I NEVER to touch those creams because of the permanent damage to our skin.

The Psychological Impact

The internal struggle with racism can lead to profound psychological effects, including depression, anxiety, and a pervasive sense of not belonging. The constant effort to align oneself with the dominant culture's standards can erode individuality and self-worth, leaving deep scars on one's identity.

Pathways to Healing

Healing from internalized racism is a journey of self-discovery, acceptance, self-love and empowerment. It involves:

• Education and Awareness: Learning about one's history and cultural heritage can foster a sense of pride and identity.
• Community Support: Engaging with one's community can provide a sense of belonging and collective strength.
• Therapy and Counselling: Professional help can assist in unpacking the layers of internalized racism and rebuilding self-esteem.
• Activism and Advocacy: Fighting against systemic racism and advocating for equitable policies can empower individuals and communities.

A Call to Action

The fight against internalised racism is not just a personal endeavour but a collective one. It requires dismantling systemic structures that perpetuate racial stereotypes and prejudices. By fostering inclusive environments, promoting diverse representations, and supporting policies that combat racism, society can move towards a future where internalised racism is a relic of the past.

?Conclusion

Internalised racism is a complex issue that requires a multifaceted approach to address. Through education, community support, and systemic change, individuals can begin to heal from the scars of internalised racism, embracing their identities with pride and fostering a more inclusive and equitable society.