My approach to New Year's Resolutions (and why it works)

I know this is going to sound really, really weird but?for several years?my New Year's resolution was to moisturise my legs and arms.

Because flakey skin just ain't in.

So?I would put moisturiser by my bedside, next to the shower, etc.

But the problem was:

#1?I don't like putting on moisturiser before bed because then it gets on the sheets.

#2?I?don't like putting it on after the shower because... well, I just don't.

#3?I like oil-based creams - which is problematic because no one likes a soul-glow moment.

So the question remains - I LOVE the idea of setting intentions for the future ahead - but they never seem to work out.

So I asked myself - what's a different way to approach using the New Year as a catalyst for personal and professional improvement?

Should you keep reading?

Last year I did something different, and wow what a difference it made.

Want to know more? Read on my fellow inquisitive mind.

What's the biggest problem with resolutions?

Because logically they make sense, right?

You want to achieve something, you create a plan of action, you put in effort?and tada! You are a better person.

The problem is, we aren't (always) logical.

We have these funny things called 'emotions'?which?affect the way we see ourselves and how we approach our lives, relationships, health... and yes, New Year's resolutions.

That's why I think there is?a better way to approach NY's resolutions - focus your energy?on figuring out what?outlook?you want for the year, not the single?outcome?you're trying to achieve.

Because?how?you see the world is what is going to make (or break) the many barriers that will pop up on the pathway to achieving your dream outcome.

My 2023 Outlook

So?how do you want to see the world in 2024?

By choosing a word that resonates with you and has deep meaning.

My word for 2023 was?"WIN".

Let me explain.

As a still recovering?people pleaser, being 'assertive' is about as comfortable as a bikini wax on a sunburn. I've always?hated the thought of it.

But then, this 'winning' story?happened.

My partner and I were at an event?where the name tags included?a spot to write one's 'word of the year'.

Now I must explain,?my partner is the polar opposite of a people pleaser. Heck, he?probably wouldn't even care if Mother Teresa hated him.

So there I?was -?watching all the attendees?write down their chosen?words:

"Compassion"

"Organised"

"Confident"

all words that are really lovely and useful.

But my partner? Oh hell no.

He?grabs a black marker and writes the word:

WIN

in giant capital letters.

It was a moment that felt like?a big smack in the face.

Because I was?jusssssst?about to choose a really comfortable?word like 'kindness', which again, is a lovely word but it's not a word that (at that point in my life) would help me grow both personally and professionally.

Because the deep hidden truth was,?my outlook at that point wasn't just 'kindness,' it was?'kindness at all costs'.

Costs to MY life.

Costs to MY career.

Costs to my self-respect.

It was?'if I win, someone else loses'.

That's why?the word 'WIN' represents something very different to me.

It's about?recognising the difference between?wanting?to be kind?and?needingto be kind to?feel?emotionally safe.

Picking your 'word'

Think of a word that puts a 'filter' over your eyes helping you approach situations from a more useful point of view.

The word you choose shouldn't feel 'easy'. It also?needs to be?very personal and likely, the word will only?make sense to you - like how the word WIN meant something very specific and personal to me.

If this resonates and you find it helpful, I would ADORE hearing from you about?what word you chose and why.

>>?CONTINUE LEARNING

This exercise is one of the many I will be teaching during my small group 9 week program which helps?you?set yourself up for success and fast-track your personal and professional growth in 2024 (rather than?trying to figure it out on your own).

As one of my former students said

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The techniques [DrK] shared are so simple, making me wonder why I allowed myself to be held back for so long. I've been able to overcome many fears and realise that there's more to life. Now, armed with the techniques from the course, I can face situations without longing to be at home in my pyjamas watching Netflix.”

So if you're looking to watch less Netflix in 2024 and use that time more productively to create a life you're proud of,?this course is absolutely for you and I would love to see you there!

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Until 2024, wishing you a fantastic end of the year!

Dr K xoxo