Murder or Suicide

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This post goes against ‘social conditioning’ and in particularly lengthy.

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“Today everyone in the society keeps on giving us ‘Gyaan’ or teaches us ‘how to live your life?’ But who will explain them that “some dreams of ours have broken otherwise who knows ‘how to live’ better than us.”

Starting with above line, firstly, I just want to throw light on our ancestors how they used to live, how they used to run social daily lives? We can learn at least one important lesson from their lives that they used to live open heartedly without any stress or tensions. They knew the importance of their lives. Even we also know ,but we have lost something in between. We are only surviving, not living and that’s the difference between us and our ancestors.

Earlier, when a child was born, celebration and happiness were there all over the home and locality. Today also we celebrate but with an expectation or hope that he/she will become this/that without knowing the child’s wish. We start assuming about the child’s future. But are we doing right or going in right direction?

My kind suggestion to you, First make him/her grow.Let him/her decide what he/she wants to become. Let you kids be as they are and find their own way. Don’t put ladders of expectations before them when they even don’t know how to walk on their feet. They even haven’t learnt how to speak properly and people start imposing their own desires on them.

Now, coming to the point are we really living that spirit of life which our ancestors used to live? Or are we just surviving?

But today people will say why should we live like them? They (ancestors) had spent their lives in their ways, we’ll in our ways. Our way of celebration is different from theirs.

Okay, I agree with your answer but probably I don’t think like yours.
When you talk about why should we live like them. Then my question to you is that ‘why are you following such old traditional thinking or superstitions without observing whether they are right or wrong?’

I always think it’s not mandatory that what our ancestors have said is always correct. It may be wrong also.

Okay let terminate this discussion here. As you have said earlier that we don’t want to live like ancestors. Then one question for you, why and how you expect from your child that he/she will live and follow you in his/her life and lift the burden of your expectations and unnecessary social responsibilities?

Dear parents, let your kids be as they are and find their own way. And kids, don’t die for your parents expectations. It’s your life, LIVE IT WELL.

I am saying this because everyday,as a fact 15-20 children suicide in India because they have become tired lifting the burden of expectations and social responsibilities of others.

Every-child who sacrifice his/her life because of this cruel system, is ignored many a times somewhere at someplace in his/her life.

Why? Because he/she is not like someone or anyone who has good academic numbers or career. ‘what career, it’s only a 20th century invention. Do what your heart says.’

Why should he/she be like someone when even in our nature or surrounding, every single thing doesn’t match with other.
For example, our five fingers don’t match or are not equal.
Everyone has some different talent or potential.
Starting from childhood, he/she has been put in this war of cut-throat competition without knowing whether he/she wants to be a part of this or not. I think when you are not interested in a war, winning or loosing doesn’t matter to you. You only get suspended in middle of this whole chaos of competition.

Now a days a child is sacrificing his/her life because of this society( who even doesn’t care about him/her) or sometime even because of rude ignorant attitude of teachers also. But why should we worry about that society?Where were those people of your society when your child had tears in his/her eyes, hunger in stomach or got physical hurt? Had they come forward to wipe their tears, feed them or lessen their pain? But today we are more worried about those people than our children Should we?

Why should we worry about this society who even won’t ask your children for one time meal after your death, who even won’t give shade when they will need in rain, hot sunlight etc?

Now a days, children get criticism from their parents everyday that ‘what will people say if you will not do or become this, that etc? ‘
Did your parents ask you about this,didn’t they?
Why child prefers to suicide than to share with you that ‘Dad or Mom, I want to become this not that?’
Then why they sacrifice their lives thinking that ‘If I won’t do or work perfectly or achieve something which our parents had expected, what will uncles or aunts say?’
Adding to those, now  days children are also doing suicide because of ragging, not able to submit fees, not having good marks in exam,
ignorant nature of parents and teachers & sometimes because of this unkind cruel system.

But my last question for all of you whether this sacrifice of ‘lives of children’ is suicide or murder?

“Please parents, let your kids be as they are and find their own way.And kids, don’t die for your parents’, society’s or people’s expectations. It’s your life LIVE IT WELL. It’s your road and you are alone .
Others may walk it with you but no one can walk it for you.”

Thanks & Regards

Written & Published By:Quasib Raza

Translated By: Tufail Safder