As much as we focus on the wedding-occasion, the focus is not on the marriage

There is a question, are the weddings done in the midst of glitter and glamour, at the expense of crores of rupees, more happy than the weddings done at a very low cost among barely ten-fifteen-twenty relatives or friends? Can such marriages cross the third corner that is created spontaneously? Love-attraction-commitment to each other etc. etc. between husband and wife will not be missing? Is the relationship between mother-in-law good for life? The father-in-law will not have any complaints about the son-in-law? Just as there is a difference in the quality of a five thousand item and a five lakh item, there is a difference in cheap and expensive marriage? Are expensive weddings more durable?

My second question is, what is the proof of pre-wedding photoshoot-videography done before the marriage by spending lakhs of rupees? Can the daughter's future husband fall on her knees? Son's future wife is more beautiful than the heroine, can she dance well? Or is the physical chemistry between a boy and a girl comparable to the hero-heroine of a film?

I have a third question. Why should a boy and a girl wear matching chania-choli and sherwani at a wedding? To show the similarity of the ideas of both or to make the photography better?

My fourth and last question is why are you married? To get married in a grand way? For two thousand-five thousand guests? For photography? To show off your money, your status? Or for yourself? Our marriages are no longer marriages, they have become shows. Display of wealth, power, awe, social honor!

We have a trend going on there in the name of marriage. A destination wedding can be done outside the country's borders if you have enough money to overflow your coffers. If you have a treasury full of rupees then the destination wedding is outside the borders of the city where you live and if you have no treasury but only rupees then the wedding is outside the borders of the house...!

If the destination wedding of Mr. and Mrs. Shah's son took place in Goa, then Mr. and Mrs. Patel's son must at least get married in Mauritius! If the special does not go to Mauritius to get married, then his marriage will happen but the married life of Mr. and Mrs. Patel will definitely be cut off!

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Our Prime Minister Narendra Modi Ji had to appeal against the craze of getting married in exotic places abroad that brothers and sisters, keep getting married in the country so that the income can be given to the artisans of the country! My point is that there is no need to spend crores to get married in a foreign country or in the country? The concept of pre-wedding photoshoot-videoshoot is still not understood. What to do after those video-photos shot at the cost of lakhs of rupees? How many people watch their pre-wedding videoshoot even once a month after marriage? Think for yourself, when you go to someone's wedding, would you be interested in seeing their pre-wedding photography, balloons flying without the wind or the romance of clinging to each other? I feel that there is a need to ring a bell against such spectacles in the name of marriage.

After the boy and girl get married to each other, the dish of three thousand rupees will not come in handy to save their married life. Their pre-wedding video shoot does not help to understand each other, to get comfortable with each other. Marriage is not a show. Whether you get married at the cost of fifty thousand or get married at the cost of five crores... the happiness of your married life does not depend on the money spent at the time of marriage. I feel that there needs to be a bell ringing against such ill-gotten expenses in the name of marriage.

Marriage is not a show. Marriage is not an exhibition fair. Marriage is an ocean of love in which waves of understanding, warmth, care, adjustment are very necessary. You don't have to marry your son or daughter because the marriage of your dear son or daughter has been celebrated with great pomp. You should not marry your son or daughter just because the necessary money for their marriage has been deposited. You have to marry your son or daughter because you are blessed with a wonderful person who can grow, live, cry, laugh, scream, love, cherish, care for them! We need to change the wedding preparations. We don't focus as much on the marriage as we do on the wedding-occasion.

I want to say one thing to the boys and girls of today that marriage is not an expensive chaniacholi-sherwani or a pre-wedding photo shoot. Marriage is a responsibility. Marriage is a planning. Marriage is an event of family creation. Its preparations are different. Matching chaniacholi or sherwani, jewelry, makeup, guest list, menu, music evening dances are all preparations for the occasion. I think that dancing around a tree in a pre-wedding photoshoot or getting swept away in a boat on a beach is a no-brainer, not a responsibility. When a different kind of responsibility is starting in your life, such a nada does not work. My question is that you prepare for the occasion in a grand manner but what do you do to prepare for the wedding? An event management company will come in handy to save the event, but you have to save the wedding, no company will come in handy to save it!

Bhagwan Makwana