A Much Better Question To Ask Than "Introvert or Extrovert?"
Video transcript: Hi, this is Bruce Kasanoff with another Mountain Minute, helping you help your career by helping other people.
So how long has it been since someone asked you whether you were an introvert or an extrovert? It really comes down to... where do you get energy from? Being alone or being with other people?
I actually would like to suggest that this might be the wrong question. A better question is:
do you get energy from helping yourself or from helping other people?
And the best answer of all is... kind of in the middle, that you get energy helping other people, but you are able to keep in mind your own goals and you are able to do both at the same time. That is, that you understand that by consistently helping other people, you are really helping yourself.
That assumes you are able to state clearly to people what it is that you do best. You combine those things, and you have a magical life. Thanks for listening.
A bit more background:
It's hard to fake being a giver. It either gives you genuine pleasure to help others, or it doesn't. (I know a few folks who claim to be givers, and pretty much everyone else sees through them.)
But there are a lot of people who are on the fence, and maybe you are one of them? You get energy from helping others, but you worry that doing this amounts to a distraction from putting your nose to the grindstone and making money, closing deals, etc.
The key to doing both is to have clarity around your skills and objectives. For example, when you help others, use your best skills. Make it clear how and when you can help, and be sure to include things for which you get paid. Don't sell, but make it easy to understand what others can "buy" from you.
If you truly get energy from helping others, then this needs to be a central part of your daily existence... otherwise you won't generate enough energy.
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Bruce Kasanoff is a social media ghostwriter for entrepreneurs.
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