Mr. N and Dr. D

????????For years, I’ve seen people who would use every opportunity to judge others, or at least, to disbelieve them.?I’ve been there until I was no longer able to decide whether it was what I used to see or what I used to do.?The very contaminated thoughts that one would allow themselves to consider while dealing with others; it’s a shame.?When I question myself hundred times a day: “why are we here?” the answer is never “to judge others!”

???????????????Doctor D, a psychologist who is helping Mr. N recover from a workplace incident that he suffered weeks ago.?With no relation between us, this man keeps teaching me what kindness is.?I feel embarrassed that I forget what is core of my beliefs.?No matter how hard I try to walk them, I just keep failing.?As Dr. D listens to Mr. N, he won’t seem to doubt any of his stories.?Instead, he would carefully note down every keyword and he would seriously discuss them and investigate them for understanding, not for judgement.?He will not forget to encourage Mr. N every now and then and his focus would be building trust, or it is what I think.

???????????????If I would put myself in the shoe of Mr. N, I would speak to myself saying “this is very comfortable.?I feel contained.?I feel heard.?I feel believed.?I feel loved.”?With so many positive feelings, I would likely perform better in this community and I would likely tend to be a better one.?How comfortable it is when one knows they won’t be judged or profiled.?It’s almost impossible that one would be completely known to his teammates, friends, or family members.?People normally won’t know some details about their own selves, probably until they’re 60 and beyond, so how about others pretending to know every detail about them??I wonder how can someone who doesn’t know 100% about the other be judging them!

???????????????Toxic relationships; a modern expression of describing relations that gives one negative energy and invite them to self-destruction.?A dilemma, as I see it, when one would research it and start cleaning their circles for their better selves, while being toxic to others who were judged to be toxic with no right of anyone to deem them so.?Isn’t it ironic that while claiming we’re the victims who should defend themselves, we’re practically destroying others??Isn’t it ironic that human beings, the planet’s most civilized and smartest creatures, are the most dangerous species too, even at times of peace?