Move out of your own way!
Nick Elston
Inspirational Speaker ?? | Award-Winning Mental Health Engagement ?? | Transformational Speaking Coach ?? | Big guy with the Cap & Beard ????♂??? | Founder/Forging People - L&D + Wellbeing Partner for People Leaders ??
Earlier this year I joined my local gym.
My intention was to get up, bright and early, go to the gym and work out.
This lasted three days!
I doth my cap to all of you gym-goers out there - genuinely well done!
But, I hated it.?At best I pretended to look active - but my heart wasn’t in it. ?
It felt like a chore.
I needed to do something - to begin to tackle my physical health, but this wasn’t it. ?
So, I started to think about the insights that I share with my audiences…
(By the way, taking your own advice is the toughest thing to do, right!?
We know this to be true, think of the times you give those closest to you AMAZING advice - do you do it yourself?
Do you *#%$….no, you don’t!)
I talk about ‘emotional connection’ and how that can help us achieve positive transformation.
Music, for example - have you ever been walking or driving along and a song made you cry, angry, laugh, sad or happy? ?
We can use this ‘hack’ to work in our favour - so I decided to apply the same logic to my gym situation.
What have I always love doing?
Swimming
Why don’t I do it anymore?
Body image
That’s the truth - you know you will always get honesty from me, without any filter - I was terrified of getting my body out, semi naked - in public!
In life, in business - we can tell ourselves something enough that it feels like the truth.
It becomes a comfort zone, a limiting belief.
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So, one morning - feeling courageous - I turned right for the swimming pool instead of right to then gym.
I got undressed.
I became very anxious.
Took a deep breath.
I shuffled out to the pool area.
And…
No one cared!
You see, the only thing that was stopping me - was me.
Since then, I have found my confidence, I get up early every morning through CHOICE, I go swimming, talk to friendly, like minded people, I start my day very well & I ENJOY it!?
It’s the sweet spot between what is good for me, what I enjoy, what I am emotionally connected to & what I CHOOSE to do!
As I often say when I am Speaking...
‘we have all of the answers we’ll ever need, we just need to ask ourselves the right questions - then move the hell out of our own way!'
Today - my fitness is vastly improved, my waistline is reducing and I am feeling GOOD!?
So, what are YOU telling yourself?
Where is YOUR sweet spot when creating transformational change?
You DO have all the answers you’ll ever need.?
You just need to move out of your own way!
Until next time…
Cheers
Nick ???
Conversation Starter to Close ||| Loves helping customers and partners realise the value ||| Ex-accountant turned "Sales" ||| Drinking tea by the pint ||| Adult Fan of Lego and Retro gamer ||| Business can be fun!
1 年I really enjoy swimming. Not just for the exercise and reducing the energy used at home for showers, you find yourself just concentrating on swimming, or in my case not drowning!
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1 年Love this!
Enthusiastic optimist who’s all about people and empathy
1 年Loved, loved, loved this ?? We get so hung up on what others are thinking we sabotage ourselves! Totally relate to the swimming, I was swimming so much before lockdown I was growing gills! After lockdown it all turned into lane swimming and I was genuinely fearful of being chased up a lane when I swam so I avoided it. The day came to confront all my fears and it really was okay. I had made such a big thing of lane swimming in my mind I got in my own way! True for life too - 99% if not 100% of the time our anticipation is so much more scary than the reality thanks to our overthinking brains. These big things that get in the way are often imagined apart from when you suffer flashbacks/PTSD etc etc but even then with the right tools and mindset we can overcome. Speaking from many experiences and life changing events - if we live in our heads and let those fears completely overtake us we don’t stand a chance. I’m now learning to get out of my own way and also help/support others take those steps out of the way too. Thanks for sharing, just what I needed this morning ??
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1 年A great article, Nick Elston!