Motivation Monday Koffee with Kevin - Super Bowl - Super Tantrum - Kelce Attacking Coach Reid - Unacceptable?

So, another Super Bowl! It started out slow, but came to a thrilling end!

Every game, in every sport has its moments, as does every season have "turning points."

Like many, I chose Kansas City to win and said, "I don't know if I would bet against Patrick Mahomes." I'm sure plenty of people said that and it turned out to be correct. Mahomes put the Kansas City Chiefs on his shoulders and carried them to a Super Bowl Championship! CONGRATULATIONS!

In the meantime, however, there was an emotional outburst on the sideline that was absolutely inexcusable and unacceptable. Not only from a "professional," but from any athlete, anywhere.

While Mahomes was leading his team to victory on the field, Travis Kelce attacked his 65 year-old Hall of Fame Coach Andy Reid on the sideline, screaming to be put in the game! ABSOLUTELY UNACCEPTABLE BEHAVIOR!! WATCH FOR YOURSELF.

https://youtu.be/I8kI6ZDrdH0?si=UVliq8_yc7799sZP

So, after seeing this incident during the game, I posted on my Facebook Page how unacceptable is was: https://www.facebook.com/share/sbP7jtGfU6n4zkke/?mibextid=I6gGtw

I recieved a variety of responses. Many in supoprt of my comments, but then there were a bunch of negative comments that this outburst / tantrum / attack was somehow "acceptable" or "understandable."

I think it's "unacceptable," but I also see how it is becoming socially and culturally "acceptable," which is a little scary.

Let's start with this incident itself. Travis Kelce is my size, 6' 5" 250 lbs. No doubt an intimidating figure especially if he is enraged and screaming in your face after shoving you unexpectedly on the sideline, causing you to lose your balance, while you're trying to coach a Super Bowl. It's not the first time Kelce has had outrageous behavior on the sideline and not his first with Coach Reid. (which is where the problems begins. You don't stop it the first time, it will continue, like verbal or physical abuse. Unless you make sure the offender knows that on no terms is that behavior acceptable, you are enabling them to continue the poor behavior.)

Today, Coach Reid had a light hearted response that Kelce "keeps him young," referring to the altercation. Showing "leadership" and class in public. However, who knows what will happen behind closed doors. As a friend said, Kelce should make a public apology for his outlandish behavior to Coach Reid, his teammates, ownership and the Kasas City Chief fans. That would be "the right thing to do."

The Facebook debate, brought up a couple of social issues that are indicative of a situation like this. Travis Kelce is a "STAR." He is arguably one of the best Tight Ends in the history of football, to be fair. HOWEVER, what are we willing to tolerate or accept from people because they are "STARS?" Or because they are Rich, or Powerful or Beautiful? I have seen young players throw tantrums, because of other players and because of coaches. I have also been around professional level players most of my life and can see the "challenging" troubled players and the true leaders.

There is video of Magic Johnson, Larry Bird, Michael Jordan, Payton Manning, Tom Brady and many other extraordinary athletes yelling at their teammates, but I have never seen a player go after a coach on the sideline during a game like Kelce did. There was an NBA incident with New York Knick, Latrell Spreewell years ago choking his Coach, but that ended his career with criminal charges.

So. My question becomes, "What is Acceptable Behavior?"

An emotional outburst like Travis Kelce's lacks "Emotional Intelligence."

Could you imagine if our Military or Soldiers acted like this on the battlefield? Could you imagine if our "Leaders" acted like this? OH, WAIT.... That's right, our so-called "Leaders" are acting like this. Verbally attacking, name-calling, belittling people. Our Presidents, Our Members of Congress and Senate, Governors, Representatives, Local Politicians and Candidates. Our "Politics" has become "Emotionally Unintelligent" and emotional name-calling and abusive behavior has become acceptable. It's all fair, as long as you win. "Winning" at the cost of our character and dignity.

The excuses that have been made for Kelce are the same type of excuses that are made for our Politics, our Politicians and our current society.

Lets go further. There is a lot of discussion about the violence of video games, HOWEVER, look at the violence of almost every movie or series on TV. Look at the popular TV Shows and the amount of graphic violence. Blood and guts and gore and physcical altercations, especially with "enactments" of women beating up men on TV Shows, Movies and Video Games. Do you think there are no ramifications for this? Do you think an entire generation that is being brought up thnking this is acceptable isn't impacted by it? That blood and guts and gore and violence and physcial, verbal and emotional abuse is somehow "acceptable?" That people just shrug their shoulders and "accept it," which is exactly what enables it?

It is "Emotionally Unintelligent!"

And, even in my own industry of personal and professional development! This is about "personal development!" Becoming "your very best self!" Becoming better and stronger and smarter. And Yet!! Even in this industry you have so-called "Leaders," like Tony Robbins and Gary Vanerchuk using the "F" word on a regular basis.

Vulgarity, like verbal abuse is unacceptable and "Emotionally Unintelligent!" The use of vulgarity is "weakness," not "strength!"

So. As you can now see, the "acceptance" of behavior like that of Travis Kelce, Donald Trump, Vladamir Putin, Benjamin Netenyahu, our media, TV, Movie and Video Game Industry and our society is "Emotionally Unintelligent."

The idea of "Evolution" or "Advancement" is intended that we somehow become "better." We "learn from our mistakes." We learn what is "acceptable" and "unaccpetable." We become better educated. We become "Self Actualized" and become less threatened by people and things that are not like us. We become accepting of differences and we become "Emotionally Intelligent" to better understand ourselves and our place in the world.

By making excuses for poor and outlandish behavior, we are becoming "less intelligent" and "Emotionally Unintelligent."

By utilizing vulgarity and abusive language we deminish our vocabulary and become "Emotionally Unintelligent."

By choosing and electing verbally abusive politicians that bully, belittle and abuse people, we are becoming "Emotionally Unintelligent."

By accepting and allowing our children to watch harmful, violent and vulgar TV Shows, Movies and Video Games, we are actually contributing to the demise of our species and becoming "Emotionally Unitelligent," rather than advancing and becoming better, stronger, smarter and "Emotionally Intelligent."

When we as a society see something that is "DeFacto" (on it's face) unacceptable and then make excuses for it, we are actively involved in the demise and decline of humanity.

With each choice of being "less than," rather than "more than," we move away from understanding and accepting the miracle of divinity that we are.

We can dismiss Travis Kelce's brutish, bullying assault on Coach Andy Reid as a moment of him losing his composure and doing something wrong and just shrug our shoulders. However, whether it be self induced, or his PR people or Taylor Swift's PR people, he should publicly apologize to Coach Andy Reid, his other coaches, fellow players, the Hunt Family, Kansas City Chiefs fans and every parent of every athlete that might think his behavior was somehow "acceptable" and be a "Leader" with character and dignity and eat some "humble pie," and say he was wrong. And, frankly, go into therapy and gain some "Emotional Intelligence."

I heard the owner, Mr. Hunt and Patrick Mahomes being classy and saying something about "all glory to God," but then you have Travis Kelce. Classless.

God Bless and Namaste' ??