Mother’s Sacrifice: The True Story of the Unheard- Awakening to Appreciation

?? The Unseen Sacrifices: Celebrating the Women in Our Lives You know her.

Celebrating the Women in Our Lives You know her. She's someone close to you. She might even be your mum; she might have been your grandmother too. I'm talking about this incredibly strong woman, a force of nature. This is how people describe her; this is what people say about her. Maybe she's you. She does everything for everyone because that's what good women do. She listens to those close to her, makes them feel better, wipes away their tears, and offers them support by taking action for them. Nothing is ever too much for her. She would drive miles to get you the one thing that will cheer you up, the one thing that will make you smile. You never need to tell her how you feel because she sees it in one look at you; you say one word, and she already knows instantly that something is wrong. She makes you feel like you're seen for the first time, special and unique. She makes the word “unconditional” make sense. She makes everyone feel loved—not for what they could be, but for who they are. Not out of obligation, not because they make her feel less lonely, but for who they are.

?? The Invisible Woman: What We Overlook Yet, no one knows anything about her wants, her needs. Out of 365 days, the only day that's about her is Mother's Day. But if anyone, were to ask her, instead of assuming, she'd probably say that all she wishes is one day to herself, one day to process, one day to put her feet up, one day she’s not the caregiver, the mother, the cleaner, the cook, the therapist. One day she can just reconnect with herself. But instead, every year, just a few days before Mother's Day, everyone around her assumes, she doesn't need anything. They all go “But Mum, doesn’t need anything." "All she wants is to have us around.”

?? Misguided Gifts: The Symbols of Misunderstanding So, she’ll probably get the new steam iron or a better vacuum cleaner. Because “she'd be happy with whatever; it's Mom we're talking about. Let’s just go home for lunch.” But where does it start? It didn’t start with people creating assumptions, but with how she describes herself. Using those accommodating phrases to make people feel better like “Oh, you shouldn’t have.” “You shouldn’t think of me, what about you?” “I don't need anything.” “All I need is you, my family.” Every day she downplays her own importance, and makes herself become invisible. And without even noticing, she teaches the world that she matters less than those around her.

?? The Silent Screams Inside But inside, she's crumbling inside. Screaming in silence to be seen. Every day, she whispers in her mind “Give me the strength to carry on” but she says nothing. She keeps it all in. What she doesnt know is that, at some point, with this attitude and behavior, she will receive the attention she deserves. Lying over there, on a hospital bed because that’s the destiny she's creating for herself. It is also what she teaches her daughter, who will unconsciously reproduce what she's been seeing for so long, looking at her devoted mother, the one person she admires the most sacrificing herself in the name of love. Unconsciously has already registered in her mind that this is how a woman should love. This is what it’s like to be a good woman.

?? The Harsh Reality: Why We Need to Change Okay, by now, you're probably thinking, “What is wrong with this coach? Why is this story so dark?” Because that's the point. Sadly, people only pay attention to what shocks or rattles them. The more shocking, the more likely it will resonate with you. We’re all wired to connect with strong emotions, whether they’re negative or positive, that’s how we feel connected to the story we hear. So indeed, this is not an old Disney movie story; because this content is real. It's about my clients' stories, it's about mothers' stories, about grandmothers' stories. It's raw, authentic, and deserves to be told unfiltered. I cannot apologize for it. This story has a happy ending. But if I were to focus on that you’d miss the point. I’m here to shock you; to push you, so you choose growth instead of the comfort of what’s familiar.

?? Growth Begins With Choice: Action Points for Change Let this Mother's Day be the start of your new legacy. You deserve more than a day, more than kitchen appliances or anything to clean around the house as presents. You deserve more than being recognized just as a caregiver. Don’t you think you deserve better than a household appliance as a gift?

Here are some action points for you:

1. Awareness: read this newsletter a couple of times, maybe three times, and let those words infuse a burning desire for you to change.
2. Stop convincing yourself that how you behave, or feel is who you are.
3. Stop resisting change that you know is necessary. No one will stop loving you if you do less. Think about it. Do you love people based on what they do for you? Look around you, really. You're the only person who does it all. Does it stop you from loving others? So? Stop lying to yourself.
4. Stop waiting for Mother's Day, Women's Day, or your birthday. Take a day every week when you have a date with yourself. I’m serious. I want you to fall in love with yourself because how you love and appreciate yourself will teach others how to treat you.
5. Let it out. Voice your passion, your wants. When people ask you how you are doing. Answer that question genuinely, and see what comes out. Whatever does come out, we can deal with it together. I know this has been going on for so long it’s hard for you to imagine that it could be different, but I assure you it can. All you have to do is say Enough is Enough. I’m here for you. Send me a private message. Let’s make this the start of an open conversation that leads to growth. What's your story?

With love and care,

Maty x

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