Most of all I have learnt from my mistakes

Living our daily lives we make lot of mistakes like many others but we keep correcting ourselves and learning to improve from them. I learnt not to trust people on what they say or promise you so easily. I learnt that you may be surprised at how many people really stick around when you're not shining and when everything seems to be going wrong. Most importantly I learnt not to expect anything from anyone because everyone just wants what's good for them in the end.

And how I learnt all this? I had friends who pretended like they'd do anything for me. And they were there the whole time. They even used to hang out at my place and my dad took them out several times too. I never tell people much about my personal life and so nobody in college knew I didn't have a mom. However as they started hanging out so much even at my place, I eventually told them about my mom. T

hey acted like they cared so much. And when my dad got sick this year, none of them even bothered to stop by. They just started ignoring me for no reason at all. And we were on the same group in capstone as well and they didn't care about how I'd cope with everything going on as I was roaming in and out of hospitals and had to attend class for attendance. They were treated them so well, he made them food when they came over. Took us all out several times and even used to talk to them about their relationship problems. Even when he went away he used to call them too and gift them all things.

And they still didn't give a damn when he got sick. It was very hard for me to get through that phase as everything was such a shock to me, losing my dad, being alone, friends that I treated like family shunning me. Especially when I was there with them through everything. Their operations, their midnight problems, their school work assignments, term papers, notes when they got sick. I felt so stupid. However I got through it all.

In the end after everything I realized they never deserved me and our love and kindness. And even though they tried texting after college was over I never texted back as they ignored me till the last day of college when we had to present our capstone together. Even then had they shown some will to talk I would have considered it. I just think the whole ordeal has made me cynical. But I suppose it is for the better. At least now I know how people are. I'm not that gullible person anymore.

I have learned from my mistakes so many things if I go on adding like this one by one. Don't compare yourself with others or else you'll never feel satisfied with the real you. Don't hold on to the past because you'll feel depressed. Don't regret things you have done in past. Learn from your mistakes. Don't trust anyone because there is only few ones who really wants you to be successful. Don't argue with your parents because when you'll grow up.. You'll realize that they were always right. Don't be afraid of failure and never afraid of trying .

Most of the things that attracts you in your teenage years are the things that actually distracts you from doing the right thing. Don't fall for the bad guys because they'll never change themselves for you. Don't expect too much from anyone or you'll regret it later. No one will always be there with you for a lifetime. Learn to face things alone. You'll think that this is the right thing unless you'll experience it.There is no such thing called best friend because the ones who really cares about you will never ask you to call them a best friend, you'll just feel it on your own.

Attraction and love is different. As attraction is temporary and love is never temporary. Don't rush things in your life especially when you are thinking about being in relationship. Don't fall for the good looks because this may attracts you at first but once you'll get to know that person you'll regret it later. Don't waste your time on social media when you're in school because you may lose interest in studies. Be afraid of trying new things because some things will make you feel regret later. Don't ever let anyone bully you or you'll lose your self confidence. Don't be afraid of the people who thinks you're not good enough because actually you're worth it.

Don't chase those who ignores you because the ones who really cares will be there with you. And you don't need to chase them. Be yourself no matter what other people think about you.Love yourself even more before loving anyone. The person I trusted the most let me go for some lame reason I don't even know properly. Learnt to make peace with it and chose happiness for them too. Pride goes out of park when you go for what you want. Learnt that sometimes you have to do tedious, shit work to support the projects you love .

Started freelancing it bombed. Pathetic attempt at business, it flopped. Learnt Success is not an event, it's a journey. You prove yourself overtime and not immediately, whether it is in relationship or career. Do you know about this guy- procrastination, it's a guy with hidden form of fear. Learnt that Sometimes you have a great reason and opportunity to be what you want but it is your want which changes everything for you and nothing else. There is always another bus coming. This I learnt it from Richard Branson. Later learnt to be daring, to take risks, to be okay if my project bombs but to take the initiative always .

Any conversation whether it is with book or with people who genuinely care for you changes your self concept every time. Your perspective of life depends on your self concept.

I was worried, comparing myself to others to my failures without knowing what success is for me. Learnt to define my own success, understood that what others view as success is not necessarily my success. I always viewed asking help especially monetary help as weakness. When I was finally down on my knees Learnt that people who genuinely care for me will see that as their support for my success rather than my inability or weakness. I still feel funny at my ignorance.

What is life? Why did they betray me? Why did God do this to me? You ask these questions without knowing that you are trying to blame when put in a spot and not when you are enjoying life. What is the best answer to: "Why me?" Learnt to take responsibility for my actions and to stop blaming and complaining. I always doubted myself that I am capable to do that thing or not but later I learnt that all you have to do is to give your 100% and left the results on god because whatever happens is always the best for you because god is always with you. Cheers!