To be more self-confident here are 10 ways to grow self-esteem.

Over the past several decades an industry has surfaced that believes building up everyone’s self esteem is a productive endeavor.? The problem, it doesn’t work.

Artificially inflating people’s self-worth is like telling people they can fly.? If you don’t have wings, you won’t get very far.

Our self-image is based on perceptions and experiences.? If our self-image is healthy, those perceptions and experiences are positive.? When our self-image is tarnished, we gravitate in the direction of fatalistic thinking, limitation, and unhappiness.

Poor self-esteem will impact relationships and influence how successful we become in life.? It can also prevent people from even trying to improve.

People with poor self esteem place heavy emphasis on the opinions of others.? They constantly seek approval and often prefer to stay comfortable.

Fear of failure and rejection are prominent personality characteristics, and people often acquiesce when they should stand firm on their convictions.

Guilt, shame, and blame are feelings that frequently dominate a person’s internal dialogue when they wrestle with poor self-esteem.??

It’s also very difficult for people with low self esteem to feel satisfied with their achievements.? Success seems elusive and the desire to try is concealed in a litany of excuses.

“Successful people experience fear, successful people have doubts, and successful people have worries. They just don’t let these feelings stop them.” –?T. Harv Eker

So how can we build genuine self esteem and feel more confident in the process?? Here are 10 things that can help:

Compare

Social comparisons are easy to make in a world dominated by social media.? The problem, comparisons decimate our self-esteem because we often make comparisons with people that are far more successful or better looking.? Avoiding the temptation to compare is essential for better self-esteem.??

Refute

We need to regulate our internal conversation and make sure its positive.? It’s easy to develop a negative self-worth when our internal dialogue is dedicated to negative noise.? Refute those negative internal conversations with positive thoughts that are less critical and judgmental.

Embrace

Self-acceptance and self-love are essential to better self-esteem.? Until we learn to love ourselves, feeling lonely and unworthy are often the unintended consequences.? Embracing who we are and learning to love our own company is critical for success.

Forgive

Learning to accept yourself is great but learning to forgive yourself is equally as important.? Beating ourselves up over past failures results in a myriad of emotionally challenges that weigh us down.? Learn to forgive yourself and others to enjoy the liberation the coincides with releasing bitterness, anger, and self-criticism.???

“You can have anything you want if you are willing to give up the belief that you can’t have it.” –?Dr. Robert Anthony

Focus

People with poor self-esteem often focus on their weaknesses and shortcomings.? In the process, they slip deeper into low moods and even depression.? Focus on our strengths and build upon our natural abilities.? It’s a great way to create momentum consistent with better self-esteem.

Alienate

We need to let go of negative energy and learn to forgive people that have hurt us.? We don’t forgive to reconcile or pardon the perpetrator; we forgive to free ourselves.?? We also need to avoid letting negative people impact our positive mood.? Alienate yourself from negative people and surround yourself with champions.?

Affirm

Start to conduct a positive conversation with yourself.? Begin reprogramming yourself to think differently and start to believe in your true potential.? Once we create a picture of what we desire, consistently manifest your vision with positive affirmations and daily action.

Visualize

Start to picture your accomplishments and embrace the beautiful feelings that coincide with realizing your achievements.? Picture the person you want to become and then set off to make it a reality.

Gratitude

When we suffer from poor self-esteem, we create a negative reality that doesn’t celebrate the success of others and easily overlooks all the wonderful things we should be thankful for.? Without gratitude each day we gravitate toward rumination and constantly wanting more. Gratitude is essential for building better self esteem and it starts by recognizing our blessings every day.

Assertive

We learn to be more assertive, so we don’t let people walk all over us.? In addition, being assertive helps us speak up and gain respect.? Assertive people cultivate determination and resolve and learn to purpose their dreams with ambition.? Assertive people create a sense of confidence that is contagious.

“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.” - Ralph Waldo Emerson

Sum it up.

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About Steve:

Steve Wohlenhaus is CEO of Weatherology, the leading company in the world at disseminating audio weather information.?? Steve began his career as a major market television weather anchor in Minneapolis, where he received several Emmy Awards for science programming.? Steve is an author and host of the podcast program Anatomy of Success.? Reach out and connect with me on LinkedIn.? Learn more about my work and grab the free Weatherology mobile app by clicking any picture in this article!