More Relationships die by ice than by fire

Feeling Like Housemates?

Is your relationship starting to feel more like a roommate situation? Many couples I work with experience feelings of loneliness or emotional neglect, often overshadowed by the demands of daily life.

No Arguments—But No Connection?

Think things are fine because there’s no fighting? The absence of conflict doesn’t always mean everything’s okay. In fact, it might signal a lack of passion or deep connection.

Is Your Relationship Turning to Ice?

John Gottman’s insight, “More relationships die by ice than by fire,” resonated deeply with me. Relationships can deteriorate slowly, like ice melting, rather than ending in a fiery explosion of conflict.

Rekindle Your Connection

Here are a few tips to help reignite your relationship:

• Check-in daily: Spend 15 minutes each evening connecting.
• Weekly meetings: Discuss your relationship openly with a “State of the Union” meeting.
• Non-defensive communication: Respond with empathy, not defensiveness.
• Plan couple time: Regular date nights are great, but daily interactions matter too.
• Respect each other: Courtesy lays the groundwork for resolving conflicts.
• Talk about sex: Keep the conversation about your sex life open and honest.

Is It Too Late for Couples Therapy?

If you're feeling distant and unsure where to start, it might be time to seek professional help. Read the full blog or get in touch for couples therapy, including Marathon sessions that can make a difference.