No more "C" word

The journey we went on in The “C” word article was pretty exciting. It's jam packed with thoughts and ideas intended to expand your knowledge and relationship with Growing, Learning and Evolving. It takes out some of the fear and anxiety we associate with the “C” word and how we can look at things in a different, more positive light – often merely by using different words.

Now look, honestly, we can’t take out all the nerves about taking a leap of faith into the unknown – or indeed when we’re forced into a leap of faith into the unknown. The fact that we now appreciate that this feeling is completely natural, however, lets us allow other emotions in. Anticipation. Excitement. Motivation. 

It also lets us reflect on the fact that probably 90% of the Growth, Learning and Evolution available to us is in Our Control. We can Choose to Be Better, Act Better, Think Better, Believe Better … and we don’t need to have all the answers or do this alone. Leap into the unknown yes, but leap towards someone you know can help you.

So …

If you want to Grow, Learn, Evolve – I’d love to help You

The list is endless, but if there’s anything about Clarity, Purpose, Workload, Working Hours, Sleep, Mindset, Negative Thinking, Self Confidence, Self Esteem that’s bothering you … I invite you to take an educated leap and get in touch.

If you suffer with the baggage of not feeling Good Enough or like you Can't Cope … I invite you to take that educated leap and get in touch.

If you need help Setting Goals, Staying on Track and being held Accountable … I invite you to take the educated leap and get in touch.

If you need someone you can let off all your work stresses with, without judgement, politics or an agenda … I invite you to take an educated leap and get in touch.

That's what I help people with, all over the world.

Something my clients also treasure is my honesty and connections. If I don’t feel I’m the best person to help you with something we touch on, I am able to introduce you to incredible people who can. I’ve spent years building close relationships with incredible coaches, mentors and therapists to make this possible. How many people are prepared to do that? Not many, because it’s all about them. As corny as it sounds, I’m all about You.

The difference between Great and Excellent (in my opinion)

So, what makes me even remotely qualified to help You? Well, I could bore you with my Life Coaching, CBT qualifications, and the wealth of courses, coaching, mentoring I’ve undertaken. The years and ￡’000s I’ve spent on education and personal development that I’ve loved … but I’ll be honest with you, that’s not important. Anyone can get certificates and attend courses. Results for clients matter most; but How?

The thing that makes Great coaches, mentors and teachers stand out is Action. They take Action on their learning, which in turn enables their clients to take Action and get the Results they want.

The thing that makes Excellent coaches, mentors and teachers stand out is the above, combined with invaluable, priceless Life Experience.

I have struggled with every one of the things I help my clients with. Every. Single. One.

That’s why I called my business Empathy Coaching – for me, it’s essential I feel Empathy with my clients through lived experience.

So …

Yes, I constantly felt Not Good Enough, irrespective of what business or outward success I appeared to achieve.

Yes, I lived in constant Fear of making mistakes and not being able to cope.

Yes, I felt trapped physically, mentally and financially in a “corporate bubble” from which I felt there was no escape. 

Yes, I worked harder and longer thinking it was the way out; but it just made things worse.

Yes, I could stand on stage and look confident and excited; whilst inside I was crying, dying and feeling completely worthless.

My story led to Burnout, two Breakdowns, Severe Depression, Generalised Anxiety Disorder, Insomnia, Liver Disease. My story includes actually dying once and escaping death by the smallest of margins 3 times, including the despair of taking my own life. It's one helluva story!

So, am I passionate, excited and inspired by this world we live in? Am I passionate, excited and inspired about helping people all over the globe live better lives? Am I passionate, excited and inspired about finally having a sense of my place in the world and wanting others to feel the belonging and joy that I feel? …

Yes, you bet. 1000%. Unapologetically.

I’m bursting with it and if you’re willing to dive 100% into Action and Commitment towards Your Better Life, then I’ll be your Biggest Cheerleader and Champion, whilst asking you the questions that need answers – because that's what you’ll need to get there.

Not enough?!

Let’s go back to the “C” word. I used to think I managed it well; I felt like a pro, given it was almost a constant in my working life – restructures every 6-18 months for 20 years. Turns out I was really good at helping others through it, but it took it’s toll on me in terms of high anxiety and fear; and that bottled up. It didn’t end well; but I Learnt, I Grew, I Evolved.

I know how it Feels. I know how your worries impact your loved ones. I know what you Think when you’re staring at the ceiling at 2am. I know the Frustration and even Desperation you can feel when you’re giving your all, but things just don’t seem to be getting better.

No Course, Qualification or University can teach you that.

I put my limiting stories aside and reached out to people who could help me Act, Think and Believe on a totally different level …

I Grew. I Learnt. I Evolved.

… and it’s my absolute privilege to offer You that same opportunity. Condensing my years of knowledge and experience into quick, 100% proven, immediate Action. Not from a textbook, but from real lived experience so you can avoid the mistakes, pitfalls and distractions on your way to the Better Life You Want, whatever that may look like. 

One last insight

The greatest lessons that have helped me take my Growth, Learning and Evolution to a whole new level have not been from my immediate circle of friends, family or from the business I worked in (as incredible and supportive as they all were).

In fact, one of my greatest mistakes was thinking that my Growth, Learning and Evolution was tied to only what my employer offered. Your employer may have incredible resources to hand – use them; I did. They are, however, still entangled with the business.

I used to think the “big picture” was seeing things from a total business viewpoint, or the industry viewpoint. When it comes to 21st century Business, Growth, Learning and Evolution, however … the big picture is a World view.

Companies, however, have limited personnel and budgets.

Do they, for example, work with the most successful, insightful and impactful business and personal transformation people on the planet? Probably not.

Do you or your employer even know who these people are? Probably should.

Does your employer work with people who have worked with or been trained by such accomplished, transformational people? Maybe, but again probably not. 

I don’t say this to knock your employer, or your current general knowledge. I also don’t admit to having had the privilege of being trained by such people to brag. I do say these things, however, to help open your eyes to a world of possibilities and the need to look beyond your current sphere of reference.

I had no idea who, for example, Tony Robbins, Dean Graziosi, Ted McGrath or Brian Tracy were when I worked in corporate, and yet they had been around for years. I wish I had. If you don't know about them, go look up some of their motivational speeches.

I also wish I had had someone who truly understood what I was going through, and who could have helped me with managing my work, my sleep, my health, my mindset and everything else I had rushing around my head. But I didn’t; and I know many of you don’t either.

You see, my greatest lessons have come from people outside of my previous working and personal environment; some local, others across the globe. People who have also come through incredible struggles, but are now living a fulfilling and abundant life, in a way that deeply appreciates the wonder and miracle it is to be alive – and what a waste it is to live life any other way. 

They still make mistakes, they’re flawed human beings, but they Live, they Give, they Inspire. They don’t just Exist and accept what’s in front of them. They continue to Grow, Learn and Evolve and they do it whilst helping others. That’s who I Choose to surround myself with and that’s how I Choose to now Live my Life.

Today, I even lead nearly 500 coaches and therapists who make up the absolutely incredible Community called The Visible Coaches Group! All these incredible people inspire me to Be Better, Do Better and Be of Service to people across the world … and I’m taking all of that, with all my experience, and offering it to You, with integrity, heart, honesty and empathy.

I don’t have all the answers and my approach isn’t for everyone, but I embrace Growing, Learning and Evolving every day and by sharing what I already know, well we all get to Grow, Learn and Evolve together; and that’s pretty sweet.

Interested? Intrigued? Got questions? Then take that educated leap and Get in touch.

Whether you’re more comfortable with structured online Self Study or Group learning; or prefer the flexibility of an ongoing 1:1 mentoring arrangement, I’ve thought this through for You. We can even have a free call to talk things through in the first instance.

Just take the first step towards Growing, Learning and Evolving into the person you were destined to be, by reaching out.

The one Guarantee I can make is: Your future self will thank you.

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Martin Seville is an inspiring Empowerment & Personal Development Coach, Storyteller and Mental Health Advocate.

He created The Hero's Journey Coaching Programme to Empower Managers and Business Owners to take the Effective Action needed to better manage their daily Workload and thus reduce Working Hours and Exhaustion in the process.

Martin is passionate about Empowering hard working, conscientious workers to Believe in Themselves and be the Hero of Their Story.

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