If money wasn't a problem, what would you do?

Once my daughter, who is now 10 years old, asked me "Mommy, why does my father spend all day working in the office and when he gets home he's still working?".

So I stopped, and I was wondering how I could answer that question. I took a deep breath and said, "Daughter, your father works from home, because there's no time to finish everything in the office."

She stopped, smiled, and asked "Mom, so why did Dad's company hire someone so slow?".

After that day, I began to reflect on how unhappy he was in that job and about the fear he had of not facing the new and following his professional dream.

Sometimes some questions can be liberating at any time in our lives. Stopping a little bit in the day-to-day routine, and choosing yourself, are principles we don't learn at school.

How many times in the day do you stop and listen to that song you haven't heard in a long time? Or don't you put on those jeans you love anymore, why did someone tell you you don't look good in them?

WHAT would we do and WHO would we be if we were not so influenced by the opinion and validation of others?

Maybe you're thinking "Ok Tammy, this is all very beautiful, but how do I pay the bills? I've spent years of my life doing the same thing, I can only do that and i only have "stability" in this job."

Well, I'd say maybe you're also taking work home...

What would it be like if you lived the life you really want to live? If you think you can't or can't live that life, know that it may be your mind wanting to sabotage you.

Can't you make a decision now that will bring you closer to the life you dream of so much?

As long as you hold the comfort zone in your hand, another great thing has no room to enter! Loose! And then stop judging yourself and be you, thus creating the life you have chosen.

Detachment can release something deep within each of us. It can free us from the fear of losing, of changing, and of accepting.

Check out below 3 steps to live the life you deserve:

01. Identify your beliefs:

"My English is not good, so I can't get a good job"

"I'm too old for that"

"I wasn't born with this gift"

"I always leave everything in half"

"It is not possible to live from what one loves"

"I can't learn such a thing, nor does it do.

Any familiar phrases? If so, try to create from that point a strengthening belief. Trade negative phrases for one that will give you the strength to keep fighting until you reach the goal you've determined. That's Growth Mindset.

For example, My English is still not as I would like, but I can start changing that.

02. Make a decision:

Control your brain's defensive impulses or they will control you.

Stop validating other people's reality or making your decisions only on their belight.

What's really important to you? Focus on that.

No one is worse or better than you, we just need to make the right choices. And there's no formula for making the right decisions, maybe only the wrong decisions will teach you that.

03. Keep the new thought on going

That may be the most challenging part, but when you make the real choice, no one can stop you. Keep your decision focused on what you believe, until this new strengthening belief becomes a habit in your life.

You don't have to prove anything to anyone and not to yourself. Commit to your own life.

Start with one step at a time! Choose you under some circumstances in your day and be aware that you did it for yourself today. Try today to simply be you.

And finally, try exploring possibilities and the universe will update itself in another way for you. This is not religion or philosophy, it's quantum physics.

Don't look at your fears in the rearview mirror, just keep driving towards a date with yourself.

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Tammy Barreto Muller is a psychologist, postgraduate in People Management and Business Management, with 10 years of experience in human resources in large multinationals. Currently, career coach focused on international business, working and residing in Ireland.