Money and Sex - the two most taboo topics to talk about.

Money and sex – the two most charged topics to talk about. No matter where you come from, no matter what your background is, your culture, ethnicity, age.

They both bring millions of triggers we either don’t want to address, often don’t even want to see and CERTAINLY don’t want to talk about.

If you think you don’t have a challenge talking about these topics I challenge you to go and find someone to talk to about them – really really really openly. Have a conversation about your own view on money or sex. And not only about your view but your own life when it comes to these two topics.

You won’t. (Unless like me you are lucky enough to have some REALLY close friends you share everything with.)

Because both of these topics come with a lot of shame, guilt and SUBCONSIOUS beliefs we carry with us without realising it. You (and I of course) carry many blind spots.

We DON’T know what we DON’T know.

Even if I openly talk with my closest friends about these topics – I still have blind spots I can’t see. Every time we have a conversation I am amazed what comes up. What I suddenly see I could not see before. This never ends, by the way. We will NEVER be able to uncover all our blind spots. That’s the beauty of being a complex human BEing??.

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Today, for the first time in my life, I want to publicly talk about my own MONEY SHAME.

Why?

Because you most probably have your own money blocks which drive your everyday decisions – regardless whether you are employed, self-employed or unemployed.

Another reason I want to talk about it is because it is part of my CONSCIOUS coaching – helping people bring their subconscious beliefs out on a surface so that they can make a choice – not run their lives on autopilot. Because it’s exhausting. I know – I have been in the autopilot mode for over 40 years of my life.

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THIS IS WHAT I UNCOVERED YESTERDAY.

A BREAKTHROUGH STORY.

I have a friend staying with us at the moment. Very close friends. One of those friends we talk about everything with.

We have spent ten straight hours talking yesterday.

One of the topics was a topic of money.

I am well aware of many of my money blocks. They have been coming up a lot after I started my own business. Things I have NEVER EVER even thought about.

And yesterday, I had a massive realisation.

In my family, we never spoke about money. Ever. We still don’t. Talking about money in my family is literally IMPOSSIBLE.

I tried to open up a question of money with my parents a few months ago. Just to understand a little bit more about where this resistance comes from. Nope – they would not have it.

What I took from my upbringing into my adult life when it comes to money was an understanding that

-?????????I go to the university.

-?????????I find a job WITH THE TITLE. (important)

-?????????I work all my life as an employee in a big company because that brings security. (and prestige)

-?????????I do my best to climb the career ladder.

-?????????Work very hard to create a certain image so that I can make people believe I MADE IT. ?

-?????????I PRETEND everything is fantastic even if it isn’t. Because people would either laugh at me or thought I was weak if things were not perfect.

-?????????I can’t run my own business because that’s NOT what we do and how we make money.

-?????????I work hard, don’t really answer back, follow the rules and do that until I am ready to retire.

You get the gist. ?

No education on how to make money (outside of the monthly hard-earned paycheck), how to create money, how to invest, how to save money, what’s my relationship with money, how does money make me feel, etc.

For many many years I have followed the pattern.

Not because I thought it was fantastic but I DID NOT KNOW anything different.

That was my truth. That’s how money was made. No questions asked.

Until something started feeling off a few years ago. This started feeling like a rubbish formula. For me, I mean. Not that there is anything wrong with the above but it started feeling like this was NOT my formula. This was my parents’ formula and I simply took it on without questioning. The same as my brother and my sister before she passed away. ?

As I was talking to my friend yesterday, a feeling of SHAME around money came up for me.

A realisation WHAT the above formula really meant in my life. A realisation that I STILL subconsciously believe below:

-?????????I have to work really hard for my money.

-?????????I can’t really earn more than other people – that would be sticking out and that’s not good. That would be NOT following the rules.

-?????????It is important to keep a great image – whatever is happening behind the social posts I am posting. Because of course I want to show you that I am rocking it! (whether I am or not is irrelevant). Image is everything.

-?????????I really really really want to show my parents how good I am doing. Otherwise they will tell me: “We told you..”

Bottom line – as much as I thought I have passed the syndrome of trying to impress somebody with what my life is like, it landed yesterday that I see this in the corporate world a lot and I am still living in this formula.

Still being subconsciously caught up in it.

Needing to work really hard, build a certain image but really in the background feeling like I am not deserving to have more than my monthly paycheck because that’s NOT what we do.

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IN MY FAMILY, WE CREATE IMAGE NOT MONEY.??

And we might get to a certain good level but BOY, is it hard earned???

Voila.

A breakthrough.

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I know so many of you can relate to this. So many of us have been brought up this way.

This is not about blaming our parents. They have done the best they knew how.

This is about us waking up to OUR OWN way of living.

Us questioning our patterns, habits, beliefs.

This is about us being CONSCIOUS and being playful around our discoveries, fears, wants. (not only money, any area of our lives)

This is about us finding COURAGE to learn WHO WE ARE under the layers and layers of our programming.

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I invite you to start looking at your own patterns.

Where in your life are you feeling stuck or limited or unexpressed?

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I invite you to work with me so that we can uncover YOUR BLIND SPOTS.

You will NOT uncover them on your own. Really. I am not making this up. You simply won’t.

Because you can’t see what you can’t see!!

I have the tools to help you see what’s stopping you from getting where you want to get to.

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DM me to enquire about my Conscious Coaching.

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And for the record:

-?????????I love money.

-?????????Money comes easily to me.

-?????????I have an intimate relationship with money.

-?????????I love earning more than others.

-?????????I know very well how to run the business.

(Are you being triggered by any of these sentences? If so, it’s a sign to turn the mirror inward and look at what’s triggering you.)

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-?????????Let’s be honest – I still love to create a certain image – something more to work on??.

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Mum, Dad – I LOVE YOU

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With Love,

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Michaela xx