Money: The power that shapes your life without you even knowing

Money: The power that shapes your life without you even knowing

Have you ever felt a sense of dread or fear around money, no matter how much you have or how carefully you manage it?

Have you ever wondered why money feels like a source of anxiety, guilt, or even shame, no matter how much you earn?

Do you stress over every purchase or feel guilty after spending, even on things you enjoy?

Why does talking about money feel uncomfortable or taboo, especially around family and friends?

Have you noticed patterns of self-doubt, fear, or guilt creeping in every time you make financial decisions?

Does the thought of checking your bank balance or setting financial goals fill you with dread, even if there's no immediate reason to worry?

Ever feel like no matter how much you earn or save, it's never enough to make you feel secure?

Are you stuck in a comparison cycle, feeling 'less than' when seeing others’ financial success?


If the answer to any of these is Yes, you might be carrying one of the money wounds that is becoming a hurdle in your financial dreams.

If so, you’re not alone. Money can be one of the most potent forces in our lives—not just for survival but as a mirror reflecting some of our deepest fears, beliefs, and patterns. For many of us, these patterns are rooted in what we call money wounds.


But before we jump to know ten types of money wounds, let's understand how and why money became so important to us.

Why is Money so Important?

We hear all kinds of stuff about money.

"Money cannot buy happiness."

"Paisa toh haath ka mel hai."

"Don't think about money; it will make you greedy."

But we all need money to survive in this world.

Money is one of the biggest motivators for taking action.

But have you ever thought about why money is so important to us?

Money is profoundly symbolic and emotional, connecting many aspects of our lives. It’s not just a medium of exchange; it carries profound psychological and emotional weight.

When I think about money, it feels like more than just an exchange for goods and services. It’s almost like it’s been woven into the fabric of our existence—shaping our lives, choices, and even how we see ourselves.

But have you ever stopped to wonder why money feels so profoundly embedded in our psyche?

Why does it carry so much weight, not just as a tool for survival but as a mirror to some of our deepest fears and beliefs?

Here’s the thing: money didn’t always exist as we know it today.

Sometimes, humans didn’t have coins, bills, or bank accounts. Instead, people traded what they had for what they needed. However, as societies grew and became more complex, the trade system simply couldn’t keep up.

That’s when money was born—a simple yet powerful tool designed to make exchanges easier and fairer.

But here's where it gets interesting: while money began as something practical—a way to make life easier—it quickly became more than a tool.

Over centuries, money started to symbolize something more extensive. It became a measure of status, power, and security.

Our ancestors, who lived in close-knit communities, understood the survival instinct—how resources were essential to life. As humans began to form more prominent societies, money became an extension of that instinct.

How much we had, how much we could acquire, and how much we could give away became a reflection of our ability to survive and thrive.

In a way, money became a mirror—a reflection of how safe we feel in the world, how much power we believe we have, and even how worthy we think we are.

When we think about it this way, we understand why our relationship with money is deeply emotional and often so tangled. It’s not just about the numbers. It’s about what those numbers represent in our minds.

Fast-forward to today, and while most of us no longer worry about finding our next meal, the emotional weight of money still holds power over us.

We live in a world where?wealth is still seen as a symbol of success, and pursuing it often feels like a race—a race to prove our worth, gain security, or simply?feel like we belong.

But the more profound truth is that money, in and of itself, is neutral. It’s a tool, yes.

But it has the power to expose so much of who we are and what we believe about ourselves and the world.

The scarcity mindset we often struggle with is tied to our evolutionary history when resources were limited and survival was a daily concern.

Even though the world around us has changed, our brains still carry those old patterns—patterns that tell us we must hustle harder, compete for resources, and hoard what we can to feel safe.

Money wounds are often intergenerational.

They are passed down through families like an invisible inheritance. The fears, beliefs, and struggles around money that our parents or grandparents faced can unconsciously shape how we view and interact with wealth, creating patterns that echo through generations.

One of the deepest wounds I have worked on and am still working on is the money wound.

What Are Money Wounds?

Money wounds are emotional and psychological scars tied to our experiences with money.

They often stem from our earliest memories—hearing our parents argue over bills, sensing their financial stress, or even internalizing beliefs like “money is the root of all evil” or “people like us don’t get rich.”

Over time, these wounds shape our relationship with money, often leading to fear, guilt, shame, or self-sabotage in our financial decisions.

Imagine money wounds like unhealed injuries. Each one has its pain, its own story, and, if left unaddressed, its impact on how you live, work, and feel every day.


Let’s look at some common money wounds. As you read, see if any of these resonate with you.

The 10 Types of Money Wounds

1. Scarcity Wound

Signs: Constant fear of running out of money, even when financially stable. Often leads to extreme frugality or hoarding.

Example: Feeling a pang of guilt every time you spend on yourself, even for basic comforts.

2. Self-Worth Wound

Signs: Believing you’re not “good enough” to earn more or deserve financial abundance.

Example: Settling for lower-paying jobs or undercharging for your work because you fear rejection.

3. Guilt Wound

Signs: Feeling guilty for having money or for spending it on yourself.

Example: Downplaying your financial success around friends or family or feeling ashamed of treating yourself.

4. Trust Wound

Signs: Difficulty trusting others with financial matters, leading to control issues or reluctance to seek help.

Example: Refusing to delegate any financial responsibility, even when overwhelming.

5. Shame Wound

Signs: Feeling embarrassed or “less than” because of your financial situation.

Example: Hiding debt or struggling alone because you fear others will judge you.

6. Fear Wound

Signs: Constant anxiety around money, often driven by a “fight-or-flight” reaction to financial challenges.

Example: Obsessively checking your bank account or feeling a visceral panic when unexpected expenses arise.

7. Resentment Wound

Signs: Resenting people with money or feeling anger toward yourself for financial mistakes.

Example: Feeling bitter when seeing someone succeed financially or blaming yourself for past money decisions.

8. Abandonment Wound

Signs: Fear that money will “leave” or “betray” you, making it difficult to save or hold onto wealth.

Example: Quickly spending money as soon as you receive it, afraid it will slip away otherwise.

9. Comparison Wound

Signs: Constantly comparing yourself to others’ financial status and feeling inadequate.

Example: Feeling like you’re always “behind” financially, regardless of your achievements.

10. Deservingness Wound

Signs: Believing you don’t deserve financial abundance or comfort.

Example: Sabotaging financial gains by overspending or refusing opportunities for advancement.


How Money Wounds Show Up in Daily Life

These wounds aren’t always apparent—they often show up subtly and impact your day-to-day life. Here are a few examples:

  1. Guilt when spending on yourself: Maybe you finally decide to treat yourself to a nice dinner, only to feel a wave of regret or “buyer’s remorse” afterwards.
  2. Fear of checking your bank balance: You avoid looking at your accounts because you feel anxious, even if you’re financially stable.
  3. Difficulty charging for your services: You work hard and add value but feel uncomfortable asking for what you’re worth, so you undercharge or even offer services for free.
  4. Chronic frugality: Even with a comfortable income, you cling to old habits of extreme saving, constantly feeling like “something bad” might happen that will deplete your resources.
  5. Avoidance of financial conversations: When family or friends talk about money, you feel tense or defensive, fearing judgment or unwanted opinions.

Does any of this sound familiar? These reactions often come from wounds formed years ago, likely influenced by family dynamics or society’s messaging around money.


Healing Your Money Wounds

Recognizing your money wounds is the first step.

Healing, however, takes time, patience, and self-compassion.

Here are some gentle ways to start:

  1. Reflect on Your Money Story: Think about your earliest memories with money. What messages did you receive about it? How have these shaped your current beliefs?
  2. Challenge Limiting Beliefs: When you catch yourself in negative thought loops—“I don’t deserve this,” or “I’ll never have enough”—pause and ask, “Is this true?”
  3. Practice Small Acts of Self-Compassion: Start small if you feel guilty or anxious about spending money on yourself. Invest in something meaningful—a book, a workshop, a comforting item—and see it as an act of self-care.
  4. Surround Yourself with Support: Seek resources, whether a book, a supportive friend, or even a financial coach, to help you rewrite your relationship with money.


You Deserve Abundance ??

Unhealed money wounds are often the silent saboteurs behind our financial struggles.

No matter how many affirmations we repeat, how many times we dive into books like?The Secret,?or how many times we try to manifest with the Law of Attraction, they won't work how we want them to—because our deeply ingrained money wounds are still running the show.

Until we address and heal these emotional blocks and limiting beliefs, the flow of abundance will constantly be interrupted.

Remember, healing your relationship with money isn’t about suddenly “getting rich.” It’s about feeling safe, worthy, and empowered around money—whatever your financial situation.

As you explore your money wounds, be gentle with yourself. This journey is an opportunity for growth and self-compassion. You’re not alone, and there’s no rush. Every small step toward healing brings more freedom, peace, and abundance into your life.


Thank you for reading. I’d love to hear your thoughts on this.

Have you identified any of these wounds in your life?

Feel free to hit like and comment if this resonates with you.

Your story matters, and I’m here to support you.


Rohit Bassi

Guiding Leaders, Sales & Teams to Speak Like a Wise CEO - Be A Speaking Genius In Conversations, Public Speaking, Rough & Tough Talks | 30+ Years’ Experience | Speaker, Trainer, Coach, Author – The Communication Wizard

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