Moderate, Capitalist, Liberal and Democratic System Main Vehicle for Abrupt Change in Women, Sex orientation and Family Concept (P-7/8)

“And if Allah were to seize mankind for their wrong-doing, He would not leave on it (the earth) a single moving (living) creature, but He postpones them for an appointed term and when their term comes, neither can they delay nor can they advance it an hour (or a moment).”                                      (V-16:61)

As already shared about human beings, no one comes or dies by choice, rather he is given choice in deeds and his intentions will be checked by the Creator. As a person comes into existence with a clean mental state with certain potentials, therefore his personality is polished by the given social circumstances.

As far as human psychology is concerned, religion has set a standard of morality and disciplinary measures whereas creature (Human beings) has limited authentic knowledge which keeps changing over time. Current flow of western liberty and capitalist approach toward human relationship, social media and internet, have created confusions in the cultural and morality level in gender relationship. Even in developed countries where strict rules and taboos prevail, the young generation makes their way to develop love affairs and mutual contacts. On failure, suicide, homicide and sexual assaults take place and families are shocked over such traumas. Due to racial, religious, social ranking, rich and poor standard along with a dowry system with lavish spending in ceremonial competition, the normal flow of marriage are blocked. So, cultural and taboos are surpassed over mutual interest of the pairs to meet human needs of love and sex in this set-up. Although religion provided freedom of choice in marriages even to widows, taboos prevail in such practices. When they are exposed, it results in honor killing, family revenge like kidnapping, rapes, and girls from poor families are forced into marriage with the tribal elder male as penalty of her male relatives. Recent strict laws and woman awareness is helping to stop such cultural malpractices. 

Nature has created genders with unique traits whereas people try to equate it even trying to change personality or physical organ but in vain as a male cannot deliver a baby despite all efforts. This phenomenon was expressed at the birth of Maryam and her mother’s praying in V-3: 35-36,” (Remember) when the wife of 'Imran said: "O my Lord! I have vowed to You what (the child that) is in my womb to be dedicated for Your services (free from all worldly work; to serve Your Place of worship), so accept this, from me. Verily, You are the All-Hearer, the All-Knowing." Then when she delivered her [child Maryam (Mary)], she said: "O my Lord! I have delivered a female child," - and Allah knew better what she delivered, - "And the male is not like the female, and I have named her Maryam (Mary), and I seek refuge with You (Allah) for her and for her offspring from Shaitan (Satan), the outcast."

Although it seems to be old folk stories, rich romantic poetry and classical novel by modern fast-moving social life lovers, but there is a wide difference between sex instinct and delicacy of love sentiments. Mostly males are tuned to be enchanted by apparent beauty (without insight of other’s inner intentions) and rushes for meeting the charged impulses at the early stance but when relieved from it, they turned away the face from the same beloved for whom they travelled for hours. On the other hand, a female who is delicate but of pure sentiments looks for a sound permanent relationship for which mostly, she is easily tricked when praised with poetic words that instigate blind love. Culturally where female is taken as weak and dependent second class citizen, she is either over-protected or got rid of through marriage. So, this deprived state (personality impoverishment) makes her to look for a symbol of a man who may make up the need for love and respect. So, such girls are easily preyed upon by the criminal-minded adults in the same society. Media and TV presentation have an impact in eastern male-dominated society, secret love affairs and even marriages are reacted on by the tribal area by honor killing, kidnapping, penalty to child marriage with the elders, suicide, homicide cases, increasing number of child sex abuse, high crime rate; the poor are charged while the rich get out through misuse of legal procedure, so crimes are down as time and fair judgment could not reach justice standard. One must keep in mind that women are sincere and sentimental in love affairs but they are equally charged to take revenge when their ego is hurt. Such smart ladies know the art of control men’s stomach and sexual demands. So, they control the men with sharp intelligence as history is full of great queens (Noor Jahan, Cleopatra etc. that changed the world solaria of power.

Although in the modern capitalist society, there has emerged rivalry and competition to be self-sufficient in all life affairs including sex/love without the headache of raising children and family affairs to meet the instinctive needs but extremity has no limit without a natural fruit; rather, it has crushed natural human bonds toward self-centeredness with an empty self by vanishing own species. As people have no time to deal with normal rights and duties but for the re-creation of parental instinct or love, they enjoy the company of favorite pets and provide them with all facilities, nutrition, medicines, and daily life caring during walks, rides for facial and hair cutting etc. 

Clinically, I found that human being has potential of certain extremes which blocks its normal mental functioning in a social set-up. Human is warned to use senses to understand purpose of life in V-67: 23-24,” Say it is He Who has created you, and endowed you with hearing (ears), seeing (eyes), and hearts. Little thanks you give. Say: "It is He Who has created you from the earth, and to Him shall you be gathered (in the Hereafter).

In fact, nature (the Creator) has created variant traits in both of them otherwise Adam was enough but for the sake of multiplication process, his partner was created for mating purposes. Allah created natural specific physical functions. So, whosoever is a male, he cannot deliver but is tough to take care of a family unit whereas female is rich of love but more sharp with the parental instinct to sacrifice herself for bringing up the child after labor and some have died in this process. She is the best natural psychologist to provide love, security, understanding and appreciation to child in developing a balanced personality to face the life challenges. As stated in V-4:32,” And wish not for the things in which Allah has made some of you to excel others. For men there is reward for what they have earned, (and likewise) for women there is reward for what they have earned, and ask Allah of His Bounty. Surely, Allah is Ever All-Knower of everything.”

As life pattern is under constant change since world wars, women are competing in gender role playing, marriages are decreasing through divorces with the children suffering, and some of the kids in accidental sexual affairs are brought up through social welfare and babysitting, needing desperately psychological service to meet the psycho-social and handicapped conditions due to chemical abuse, etc. The natural marital bond of sex-partner is narrated in V-2:223,”Your wives are a tilth for you, so go to your tilth (have sexual relations with your wives in any manner as long as it is in the vagina and not in the anus), when or how you will, and send (good deeds, or ask Allah to bestow upon you pious offspring) before you for your own selves. And fear Allah, and know that you are to meet Him (in the Hereafter), and give good tidings to the believers”.

Historically, it is established that the Creator provides chances for following the straight described path in life-span but those who tried to fight with the law of nature were also always destroyed as the arrogant and extremist on earth through catastrophes. The arrogant, corrupt and wealth-seekers over humanity are warned in V-104: 1-8,”Woe to every slanderer and backbiter. Who has gathered wealth and counted it, He thinks that his wealth will make him last forever! Nay! Verily, he will be thrown into the crushing Fire.  And what will make you know what the crushing Fire is? The fire of Allah, kindled, Which leaps up over the hearts, Verily, it shall be closed in on them,”

Western culture based on wealth and power too have even made sex and marriage like a business to pay the price according to selection of desired gender in casinos, social media, and abusing low-paid female workers, etc. Rights and awareness have turned women competitive and flow of wealth and maximum hoarding in minimum time has changed the life pattern to avoid marriage and children responsibilities, meeting sexual starvation like food to meet it if one is rich and a celebrity. The freedom of sex on mutual understanding by avoiding the responsibility of children is a long business going on in all type of societies (university, job, field work, army etc.) When they confront or a misunderstanding take place, under revenge the same pair’s involved in forced rape, gang assaults, court cases which sometimes ruined the life-pattern of the culprits.

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