Misalignment of core values in your relationship or marriage is the beginning of your own hell right here on earth.

Don’t date just to escape the “Im Single” status. Don’t marry just to tick off a checklist. Life is NOT a grocery list. Find yourself first, then find someone who can accommodate the talents, the vision and the ambitions in your heart, someone who can be the enabler for you to emerge into your greatness. Find someone who believes in you, supports and encourages you even when the world laughs at your guts.

But first, find yourself because it is far more important to be the right person than it is to date/marry the right person. Become a person of value. Don’t go looking for a good woman till you’ve become a good man. And ladies, don’t go looking for a good man till you’ve become a good woman. If you want a loving, honest, supportive and rich partner; first become what you are looking. You must meet the requirements of your own requirements!

Leaders, vision bearers and dream chasers look for character, commitment, vision, grit, faith, etc…but ordinary people look for coca-cola bottle shape kinder girl, a six pack kinder guy and a heavy bank balance…but dear men, its her character that will raise your children not her beauty. It is character that makes a great wife. Dear ladies, It is character that makes a great Dad/husband not a car or a big wallet.

Take note good people, you don’t need to die to go to hell…misalignment of core values/purpose In your relationship/marriage is the beginning of your own hell right here on earth. In my humble opinion, misalignment of core values is worst than cheating. Yes, both are evil but cheating is a lesser evil compared to misalignment of core values. Trust me, you don’t want to test this theory, you may not come out alive. Misalignment of “Core Values” causes havoc and creates major disruption in relationships and marriages. The type of man/woman you are attracted to says alot about who you are.

So, leave the girl/boy down the road to a boy/girl down the road. Leave slay queens to slay kings. Leave party queens to party kings. Leave nyaope boys to nyaope girls, leave weed girls to weed boys, playboys to playgirls….AND legacy builders to legacy builders!. A legacy builder ought to find a partner who’s already weird for empowerment, transformation, wealth building, making a difference in the world. etc.

“Two cannot walk unless they agree…..”

Be on the look out for my upcoming Book titled “Disrupt Yourself Or Be Disrupted” where I talk about the impact of technology on employment, the urgency to upskill yourself and how you can position yourself for this shift in paradigm.

I am Nicky Verd

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