The Miracle Question in Psychology
Olesya Luraschi
Empowering Leaders for Transformation & Success | Leadership & Executive Coach | Speaker & Psychology Lecturer | Startup Advisor
I recently made a video on what is colloquially referred to as the miracle question in psychology.
It goes, "if you woke up tomorrow and were happy, how would your life be different."
Although this question is simplistic, one thing that it does well is help people focus on the positive future.
When it comes to creating change, too much emphasis is placed on evaluating how someone or something is broken.
Everyone has flaws and aspects of their lives that don't work.
Yet, analyzing these problems may not be the best way forward.
Some people can spend years analyzing to simply be in the exact same place.
That's why it's so important to also include a positive future perspective when it comes to your own coaching or therapy.
This perspective allows you to imagine what you hope for.
What would life look like if you already had what you hoped for?
How would you know?
Why do you hope for this one thing to happen?
What would you be able to feel if you had this happen?
These questions allow you to reflect and better understand what you actually want.
Sometimes we think we want a promotion, but in fact we just want to have more freedom at work. These are two different things that can be achieved in different ways.
Reflect more on the positive future. Spend less time analyzing what is wrong.
Start imagining what it would look like if it were right. It's shocking how much time we spend thinking about what is going wrong in our minds.
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5 个月"if you woke up tomorrow and were happy, how would your life be different." - in order to wake up happy tomorrow, the passage of a 24-hour cycle would need to occur, and a specific stimulus would need to trigger an emotional response. This response would then shape a perception and influence belief structures, which tend to be rooted in social contexts, leading to a likely possible response. To which I would also add…”ask me tomorrow”. Therefore, the response becomes intrinsically salient and relevant. Rather than venturing into implicit memory cycles and selective reinforcements. Today, the question becomes one implied by subject conjecture rooted in selective inferences and imperatives. ??