Mindy’s Monday Motivation – Blog Post #19 – You will be okay!

As any parent can tell you, raising a kid is like a roller coaster and eventually, you learn to accept the concept that everything is a phase and will soon to pass. From the non-stopped screaming to the terrible tantrums, then to the defiant period and the rebellious phase, we have gone through it all. What I have learned through my years of raising my kids is that every period is a phase and they will all past. Nothing will last forever, and change is the only constant. So, everything will be alright. You will be okay.

I say this because in recent weeks, I have friends, colleagues, and acquaintances, who are going through some rough periods. It’s hard to comfort them as everyone is going through something different and even some matters that I have never experienced myself. However, I know that time will heal all wounds, and everything will be alright as long as you allow hope to carry you through the difficult times. So, I say this again if you can hear me: You will be okay.

I can say this because I have experienced the lows as well. I have made through these low points of my life and so can you. I remember the low I felt when my identity was stolen resulting in credit card debts that I had been so careful to avoid. It was especially hard since it was done by a family member and reporting it to the police would mean reporting my family member. So, all I could do was to endure and overcome the pain. The pain came from the betrayal rather than the lost money. It still stings to this day, but I made it through the pain, forgave my family member who remained close to me, and gained back a part of myself. I didn’t become jaded or cynical. I became emphatic and sympathetic to my relative’s plight. Addiction is hard to overcome so I don’t jest about it. I have not experienced that myself, but I have been impacted by it.?So, I can understand, even if I don’t know how it is.

I remember how stressed I was when I was let go from a job. This was many years ago. I doubt it would happen now. I was miles away from home. I didn’t even have a phone as the company phone was taken away. I had to go buy a pre-paid phone to call my husband and told him what happened. I felt bitter but at the same time, relieved. It wasn’t the right place for me, but I sure didn’t enjoy the feeling of being let go. Who would? Yet, I survived it. I found another position within a month time and before my severance ran out, so all was good. I can look back now and feel alright about it because it is alright. I am alright. I didn’t become bitter but rather understanding. It was not anyone’s fault but just the way things were. Don’t get me wrong! This understanding didn’t come right away. It took a while, but I have come to understand myself a lot better. Each time I reflected on the experience, I learn a bit more about myself. I understood now that I could survive these stressful experiences and so could you.

Sometimes, I think about the lows and the highs of my life. I wonder if I would have enjoyed these high moments as much as I did if I didn’t experience those low points as well. Would I appreciate the good times as much? So, perhaps the low times help us to contrast with the good times and be grateful for these high times. Of course, who would want the low points if they could avoid it? But, if you have to go through these low points, just hang in there as the high will come. You can do it! You can make it up that hill and enjoy that high point where life is good and all is well. Just don’t give up and don’t panic. There is always a hill beyond the valley.

Have a great Monday and enjoy the rest of your week!

Mindy =D