Be Mindful of Your Yes

What do you say yes to? Your yes may be what is causing you to feel overwhelmed and busy. We are in the middle of the Overwhelmed?? Be Less Busy series. Each week we are looking at different ways our thoughts lead us to feel overwhelmed and busy. Do you find yourself saying yes when you should be saying no? It’s important to be mindful of your yes.?

Guilt

The problem is you let the pressure of guilt make the decision. Instead of being mindful of your yes.?

When saying yes to something that you do not love it will leave you with the thoughts that you’re too busy for the things that are important to you. (Link to the important to you blog post here)

Likewise, that guilt for saying yes will lead you to thoughts of overwhelm and busyness.?

Did you say Yes??

Here’s how it works, did you say yes to that thing that isn’t important to you? Now, it will also mean that you will say no to something that is a priority to you. For example, if you had said no that allows you to spend time with your significant other, your family or something that you truly love.

As a matter of fact, time is your most valuable non-renewable resource. Once you’ve used it you’ll never get those minutes back they are gone. When you said yes and you should have said no that is sending an invitation to the thoughts of feeling busy.

What would happen if you said no? For what purpose are you saying yes? These are the real questions that I have my clients answer for me when they are trapped in the mindset of being busy.?

Was it a mindful yes??

Do you know why you say yes? What are the thoughts behind the decision? Did you say yes because you feared judgment? Stay with me now, in order to be mindful of your yes take time to consider what thoughts and feelings were triggered causing you to say yes when looking back now it was an obvious no.

And on top of that did you say yes out of the feeling of obligation? Consider this, what if your half-hearted yes, means that someone that would jump at the opportunity with a mindful yes no longer will be asked. All due to your half-hearted yes. I know right, what if instead when you said no you did it with the intention of leaving the opportunity open for someone that would love to give it a mindful yes.?

What does your body say??

Once you begin being mindful with your yes your body will give you the decision. Generally, your first gut reaction is the answer. Get in touch with how your body feels when something is a HECK Yes, I’d love to do that versus when your body is silently screaming NO. Trust me there is a difference, start to tune into it.

Be consciously aware of how you feel when you know it’s a true yes. What are the thoughts you have about that mindful yes in the present moment? This is what it will feel like when you're mindful of your yes.?

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