Mind is a magnetic aura that attracts blessings and love

You hand my fingers raring to go with typing here on keyboard soon after reading the subject matter. Mind over Matter literally means something great.

Consider our mind as a person for some time. We know nothing else about him, his likes, dislikes, looks, interests, personality, circle of friends aka external influences, character strengths or weakness, preferences, we don’t even know if he is straight, bi, gay, asexual. Nothing! We cannot do the request you have asked of us because we have no information on the type of guy you are specifically trying to attract.

Even just saying men in general is too board because we have no clue what area you are from, age group being dealt with, etc. How to develop a magnetic aura to attract this one person? Get to know a lot more about him, how he spends his time, his likes, dislikes, and highlight the likes he has in yourself to lure him in and enthrall him while still exuding your own separate person to show there is more to learn about you besides taking a keen interest in his likes and ultimately an interest in him.

Well first off all, if possible, I’d drop the need to attract that “specific person”! I’ve found that by focusing on specifics (in this case, a specific someone), I tend to sabotage myself, blocking myself from attracting someone who might actually be an even better fit for me!So let’s focus on developing a “magnetic aura,” shall we? When it comes down to it, people - regardless of gender - are attracted to people who are confident in their own skin. So those you might describe as having a magnetic aura likely have a lot of self-respect. We’re subconsciously drawn to people like that because - deep down - we know that if they can respect themselves, they’ll respect us as well.

As such, I’d recommend working on improving your self-love. …I know, I know. Seems totally contradictory, right? But just hear me out. The self-love I refer to is not the arrogant, self-absorbed, narcissistic kind. Rather, it’s a healthy respect for yourself and the ability to set up boundaries that reflect that. I promise that once you are able to achieve even a semblance of true self-love, you’ll be batting away potential suitors with a baseball bat! (Um… well, maybe not that situation specifically.)

But how to improve self-love? That topic alone has spawned many a book, believe me! But it starts first with recognizing when feelings of self-loathing appear. Take a look at your life. Are you surrounded by people, work, and experiences that make you feel good? If so, awesome! Chances are you’ve got this self-love thing down. But if not, no worries - I’m gonna go out on a limb and say that’s most of us.

If you’re in this group of readers who like my writing, there’s a lot you can do to jumpstart your self-love journey. One of the simplest things (and yet, hardest and most awkward!) is to say “I love you” while looking at yourself in the mirror. The more awkward this is for you, the more you need to do it! I’d also recommend checking out “Choosing ME before WE” by Christine Arylo and “You Are a Badass” by Jen Sincero.

The irony is that attraction generally happens naturally and you really don’t have to do anything out of the ordinary. If that’s actually your picture, that’s posted beside your name…you’re very pretty and are already doing enough (just simply maintaining your beauty).

For all we know, the specific person you’re trying to attract may already like you but simply hasn’t made a move yet. Perhaps he’s shy or simply doesn’t know how you feel. Sometimes, a guy has to build up the “nerve” to approach a pretty woman. Someone recently asked me: “How do I handle pretty coworkers?” If his goal wasn’t similar to yours, her looks would be irrelevant.

What you can do, short of approaching him yourself, is to assess if he likes or notices you. How do you do that? There’s a couple ways. If you have a girlfriend you can trust (if you compete for the same guys, she’s NOT the one to assist you) simply have her tell you his reaction whenever you’re near him or walk pass him. Men are visually stimulated creatures and we’ll often turn around to take a second look (as “booty” is also a major part of female beauty).

A girlfriend can catch and see this reaction better than you can because women are smarter than we thought. It’s commonly done, when your back is to him, so you won’t normally see it. A lot of more experienced and more confident women can do this assessment without the help of a girlfriend. She’ll be twerking and drawing attention to herself and then look back herself to see if she can catch him sneaking a peak! If so, a nice smile and eye contact will often warm him up enough to come and talk to you.

And even if he doesn’t come over it doesn’t mean that you’ve failed. Males don’t all develop into men at the same rate and time. Sometimes it takes a minute for him to overcome his initial shyness. And if he’s not confident… sometimes he simply won’t get it. I can recall, back in high school, when a girl did a lot more than twerk me! We were in the auditorium and she was sitting directly behind me, facing the person behind her. Then she bumped me and quickly gave me a silly rehearsed apology. She said that, I’m sorry and didn’t mean to bump into your back, with my butt… “But you have to admit… it sure was soft!!!”

I admit it, that I simply didn’t get it! At that time, I had no idea that girls did things like that. Prior to that, I thought girls throwing themselves at men was reserved and exclusive to Groupies,so keep in mind that he’s probably just as nervous as you are. Also, your girlfriend, can be of service in this area too. I’ve had girlfriends approach me, to tell me that her friend thought I was cute and wanted to meet me. In fact, that was how I met my first girlfriend incidentally therefore that method can bring about the desired result too. Stay blessed ! #kishoreshintre #possessedbywritingspirit