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Military man

Military man
Catch me if you can. 
Trauma has been drowned out by drama.  
Coke and dope were band-aids of hope. 
Silence and passivity at best were feeble attempts to rest. 
Please withstand all my defensive postures and anger-driven demands. 
Cuz' deep inside is an innocent boy fighting hard to become a gentleman. 

Thank you for reading.

Your thoughts are very appreciated.

Author’s Bio

Karen Bontrager helps 16-24-year-old men, and fellas, 25+ stuck there due to complex trauma, make permanent shifts in their behavior from merely surviving in life to thriving through transparent coaching/counseling in one-on-one conversations and in group work, and through topic sensitive trauma-informed workshops in a program called, “From Crisis to Courage.” With this ontological approach, I partner with my clients to discover their essence, (aka highest and best self) by powerfully reflecting and listening to them. My clients quickly learn how to generate self-awareness and to voice their own relationship needs in a clear, constructive way by learning key coaching techniques/evidenced based counseling approaches/tools to work past their traumatic events and addictions to move forward. The clients are then equipped to develop healthy relationships with key relationships: parents/siblings/friends, and with intimate dating partners because they have learned how to proactively use their voice.

She does a weekly Relationships Matter Monday LI article/poem/commentary for 16-24-year-old men and fellas, 25+, stuck there due to trauma, is a frequent contributor here, and has a bi-monthly podcast called Crisis to Courage to give gentlemen an honorable platform for learning how to use their voices in a way which gets respected, instead of turning to the old standbys: anger, isolation, and numbing behavior, so they can be the men they were made, formed, and created to be.

Crisis to Courage Podcast for Men Links below:

https://www.buzzsprout.com/1130105/listings

https://open.spotify.com/show/0hBtQMFu6eOoHAJBZVRgiQ

https://podcasts.google.com/?feed=aHR0cHM6Ly9mZWVkcy5idXp6c3Byb3V0LmNvbS8xMTMwMTA1LnJzcw==

https://podcastaddict.com/podcast/3017583

https://www.podchaser.com/podcasts/crisis-to-courage-podcast-a-pl-1258925

https://www.deezer.com/us/show/1372142

https://www.listennotes.com/podcasts/crisis-to-courage-podcast-a-platform-for-udrRN3OmV9o/

Are you a man, 16-24, or more mature, 25+ which feels stuck mentally, and is not able to move forward due to a traumatic past, which shows up as anger, isolation, or various numbing behaviors, and needs support? Or, do you feel something gets in the way emotionally from you loving self, others, or having the life of your dreams, but are not sure what? Please DM me on Linked In for an opportunity to talk.  


sanjeev kemrajh

forensics & criminalistic expert at saps

4 年

Not all hero's wear capes Karen you are indeed a startling example of a heroine

Paul Sinclair

?Certified Compassionate Inquiry Practitioner ? Emotional Intelligence Coach ?Addiction/Trauma Therapist ? Psychedelic-assisted Therapy

4 年

Works for me, Karen.

Junior Schoeman

Innovating conversations, one thought at a time.

4 年

Karen Bontrager Part 1 6000 a year on average.. Problem is talking about it is not enough or not any help for majority. Unless they can see or find a new purpose what is there to occupy the mind .. What they need is to transfer their talent from 1 domain to another and how do yo do that when for most there is limited or no similarities visible. The 1 thing as a collective their talent is the only thing that cannot be destroyed. Why a collective is that is far greater than the visible parts of it that is visible in behaviour or skills Definition of Talent: Combination of cognitive innate supports that allows you to learn at an accelerated pace to master interests that are driven from an intrinsic subconscious level These we can all assess equitably that is where we start not the visible evidence but the invisible?drivers as visible activity, education are all?is driven from a core subconscious place yet those symptomatic uses do not give us alignment or support or potential views, only seeing what can be supported by confirmation biases ? We?need harmonise?those potentials across the society and environment more so inside the individual to give purpose create better self awareness Attached Bloom's Taxonomy .. Cont...

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Karen Bontrager

Founder Crisis to Courage for Men I Podcast | 16-24 | ★ Money & Thought Leader | TBRI Trauma Clinician | LMHCA Therapist | ACC Trauma Coach | No Fear in Love Race President | Coaching | Scholar | Fierce Men’s Advocate

4 年

Victor Glaviano, it would be great to hear your thoughts.

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