The Metaphysics of Loss

We spend our whole lives learning how to let go.

Whether it be the death of a loved one, a break-up, or a bad old habit.

I am convinced that the more years pass, the more of a letting-go warrior you become.

The reason I say warrior is because we are in a battle.

Not with others, as perceived. But with ourselves.

Letting go is learning how to hold on, to yourself.

Your true self.

The first half of our life we build up programs, identities, and ways of thinking - just for them to traumatize us, hurt our relationships, get us in bad situations...and so we learn to let go.

But in this letting go, in this void, this falling, we meet our darkness. And inside that darkness, our inner fire, our star. We learn for the first time what we really want. The song of our heart.

I don't know about you but I couldn't feel what my heart wanted until this year, and I am still learning. All I knew is what little Dana wanted. Dana who was eager for love, validation, attention... outside of herself.

Now it is time to get that from the real source of power, ME.

We learn to parent ourselves. We learn to be alone. We learn to love who we really are.

The courage to hold on to you is a road not many truly take. It is haunting, tension-filled and paradoxical.

But on this road lay multidimensional gifts. Little miracles. This is your destiny if you choose to follow it. It is indeed a choice.

As I said, letting go is holding on. Letting go of that rigidity, that block, that incessant mind chatter to give way to the gaseous, iridescent soul that has always been inside you and of you.

I have shed many tears letting go, and I will shed many more. I sometimes want to give up. I don't want to do the work. I just want to go back to not knowing. To auto-pilot. To the satisfaction, I had with a surface-level life.

But that always fades and gives way to a beautiful existence. A shimmer of a sun ray, a chirping of a bird on a brisk winter day, a glint in your doggie's eyes, or remembering you are alive and breathing.

Beauty is simple and complex. And so is life. Everything and anything will happen to you. Build your world using your true self. Keep letting go. The right things will stick, and hold on. Simple... but complex :-/

Written by: Dana Kippel