The Metamorphosis
Metamorphosis - a change of the form or nature of a thing or person into a completely different one. Example the growth that transforms a larva into a butterfly.
Its not an easy stage but a rather intense process which is in isolation and cause of massive turmoil because of the changes in ones body.
Today i am emerging from a 2 year metamorphosis of writing an article and I just thought would share my top life lessons in this beautiful journey called life. They are in no particular order but an extempore article.
LUCK - There are so many people who say that so and so is lucky because he was there at the right time, the truth is that amongst the 100's of professionals i have worked, the people who are lucky are the ones who are strongly optimistic about their capabilities and build up on them. People who largely whine about why only bad things happen to them, usually lose out on luck, so in a nutshell, you make your own luck and being lucky is directly proportional to your attitude in life.
FRIENDSHIP- Like romance all friendships aren't meant to last. Many times, they end when the purpose of a friendship is served. As brutal as it sounds but do not drag a dead horse of friendship.. Life is too short to invest your time and energy on a friend who doesnt deserve it. Move on.
GROWTH - It is OK to outgrow people who started with you and vice versa. There are people I know who are constantly complaining that i have more experience and capabilities(allegedly) and the other person makes more money etc, also dont feel guilty about growing in your peer group coz its your capability and the luck you created for yourself. Remember you are amazing !!
MONEY - As an old adage goes, money cant buy you happiness but it can very well buy you a life with which you can live on your own terms and provide for your family which is a definition of happiness for many. So work hard and save as much as you can and dont invest money in things that you dont understand (guilty as charged here )
REGRET- On an average if we are lucky we will live up to 80 years. Since we are humans, we are wired to be fallible. There will always be those decisions that we will regret.. Regret them but dont keep whining about it for the rest of your life. The self loathing and self pity is fine but for a limited time, else you will regret the reason why you came on this earth. Important to forgive, forget and move on.
EXPECTATIONS - Eventually your grief is your cross to bear..I learnt this a little later in life, but keep your expectations from others low and you wouldnt be disappointed. This includes your children :)
JUDGEMENTS - Always REMEMBER that if you know ONE SIDE of the story, your CONCLUSION most likely will be ONE-SIDED. Being judgemental is in extremely poor taste and clouds your decision making. Trust people who you have known and have kept your secrets forever.
I am still learning this beautiful lesson of life, this world doesnt owe you anything, comfort, support or any reasoning.. But there will always be those who extend this to you. They are the keepers, they are the ones you need to be grateful for.
Eventually there will be a time you will reach where you truly belong and you will shine and you will find your tribe.. So keep journeying, dont stop and be kind to those who are on this journey which is different than yours.
Will end by the lines of this famous Prince song which i was listening to while driving to work today -
"Dearly beloved, we have gathered here today
To get through this thing called life
Electric word life it means forever and that's a mighty long time
But I'm here to tell you there's something else
The afterworld, a world of never ending happiness
You can always see the sun, day or night."
Now tell me what your favorite life lesson is?