Mental Problems of Positive People
Coach Azahan Safetyman
Safety Coach ?? National Conference Speaker ?? Professional Learning Facilitator ?? Author
Mental Problems of Positive People
Will positive -minded people be free from mental problems, stress problems?
The answer is, they are also ordinary human beings like us.
Coach is learning a new phrase. Maybe it's already exist longer but it's new for coach.
The word is "Toxic Positivity"
In one case that the coach handled, the client was a very positive, an excellent leader.
He was very proactive and never gave excuses for mistakes and shortcomings.
In short, a very responsible person.
This pandemic affected him.
The company he worked was closed and he had to find another job.
In a new workplace, the culture is different.
The quality of leadership that this client has is not appreciated.
"During the interview, I told them my expectations, my plan and everything is ok"
Now, Management wants me to be a Yes Man, just do what they are told "
But he didn't give up.
"I met with HR, but they also have no answer"
"I want to sit down with the management to talk about this issue, but then they say this issue is not important"
"I've talked to the supervisor but they don't seem to listen"
"It seems if I continue to work here, my career will halt and not achieving my career progress plan"
He never give up
But he was rejected and worried
His stress level is at very bad level according to DASS21 - just after 2 months of work
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Finally, he was moved to contact Coach.
"Coach, I want to ask your professional about my career, can I?"
After 47 minutes coaching him via my Poco NFC smart phone, he made up his mind and cleared his mind.
He has a plan and eager to start immediately. All just from a phone call.
Here is the story
Give up means you stop pursuing the objective after giving so little effort
The key word is on how much effort we have put in
And the result from our effort is actually a gift. A gift from God. So that means we have no control over the outcome ... correct?
When we stop after we have given our best and done everything that we can, that's making a new choice, not give up.
If we continue to pursue although our mind, our physical and mental condition is affected, that is what we call as toxic positivity
We are His servants
Sometimes He brings down a test so that we feel weak, return to Him and reset.
A part of maturity is being able to know when to rest and when to make new choices in life
Whatever we do, do things that make us happy
Nothing lasts in this world, including your problems
+Coach Azahan Safetyman
Certified Coach and Psychotherapist
Certified Environmental Professional in Scheduled Waste Management (CePSWaM/05214)
1 年I experience this in my current employment. In 2018 I started out as a healthy, motivated, passionate and committed young woman. After 3 years, I was diagnosed with Dysthymia and later was diagnosed with Bipolar 2. In August 2023, I finally have the courage to resign from my position bcos my mental health has deteriorated over the years and today I have became dependent on medication just to function properly in my daily life. I'm not sure if this is a coincidence but the previous person that I replaced also had mental health issue and ended up taking his own life in his bedroom in 2018 prior to my employment, They said it was bcos of his family problem but can it be that too coincidental tho? After submitting my resignation notice, I was having a hard time to convince myself that there are things that worth letting go of. I felt like I have failed for giving things up. But thanks to this sharing about Toxic Positivity bcos right now, I just feel sooo relieved of my decision to resign. It is true, it's not giving up, it is making a new choice and I cannot wait to leave this place.
Immigration Senior Officer | Former Safety & Health Practitioner | HRDF TTT | NIOSH TTT | ETP - Advanced (ART, MAC, QEC & ROSA) | ETP - Initial | RPO
3 年Does this include high-functioning anxiety?
Safety Coach ?? National Conference Speaker ?? Professional Learning Facilitator ?? Author
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