Menopause, Weight & Intimacy

Menopause Can Impact Intimacy

Okay, it is true that some women do?not?experience a decreased interest in sex right before, during and after menopause. That being said, a bunch of us do. There are several factors involved and this article touches on some of them. Thinking that after menopause, we can finally enjoy sex without the ever present monthly period, PMS symptoms or any chance of pregnancy, we are suddenly surprised by Mother Nature's apparent bad joke. Funny thing is, with all the talking and support we chicks give each other, I have found that this subject is not broached. Are we ashamed? Embarrassed? No need - as always, we need to support each other in this too.

We know that menopause is a natural biological process that marks the end of a woman's reproductive years. It typically occurs between the ages of 45 and 55, although it can happen earlier or later. During menopause, a woman's body undergoes hormonal changes, including a decline in estrogen and progesterone levels.

The hormonal changes that occur during menopause can lead to physical and emotional changes that contribute to a decrease in sexual desire. For example, declining estrogen levels can cause vaginal dryness and thinning of the vaginal tissues, making sexual intercourse uncomfortable or painful. This can understandably decrease a woman's interest in sex. Other menopausal symptoms like hot flashes, night sweats, and mood swings can also impact sexual desire. There isn't anything sexy about night sweats and feeling like you want to kill someone (mood swings).

Additionally, psychological factors can play a role in the lack of interest in sex during menopause. Women may experience body image issues, self-esteem changes, relationship challenges, or stress related to aging, which can all affect their sexual desire. Excess weight that simply will not come off is often another factor and can increase a feeling a sense of failure, lack of positive body image and confidence. This is the area I specialize in with my clients.

If you or a woman you know is experiencing a lack of interest in sex during menopause and it is causing distress or affecting her relationship, it may be helpful for her to consult with a healthcare professional. There are various treatment options available, including hormone replacement therapy (hormones can be balanced naturally so research this one before using something that might have a negative impact down the road). Lubricants or vaginal moisturizers and even certain procedures to alleviate physical discomfort are available. Enlisting a counselor or therapist to address emotional factors can also be helpful.

Taking off excess weight, committing to self-care and more fun can positively impact a desire for intimacy. Hypnosis is another tool to foster more confidence and commitment to self-care, including behaviors impacting weight loss. (More on this in another article)

It's important to remember that each woman's experience with menopause is unique, and what works for one person may not work for another. We are all unique. Don't get into the comparison game.

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