For Men Who Refuse to Settle: Join the Movement or Get in the Bin

If you think of yourself or call yourself an ‘Alpha’ - get in the bin

If you’re not concerned about the suicide rates of men aged between 35-55 - get in the bin

If you’re not constantly thinking about how we can turn the tide of violence against women and girls - get in the bin

(One of the few forms of violent crime that is constantly on the rise)

If you think your success is defined by your bank balance, what car you drive and how big your house is - get in the bin

If you have a fixed mindset and perspective - get in the bin

If you think being patriotic is hating anyone not born and bred in your country - get in the bin

If you’re not concerned about the message we are sending to our boys and young men about masculinity - get in the bin

If you think telling people what to do and controlling and dominating them is productive - get in the bin

If you don’t feel in the core of your being, in your bones, that love and compassion will win the day - get in the bin

If you’re not prepared to do the work to be the the best and greatest version of yourself - get in the bin

If you think hoarding wealth is not a massive problem for society - get in the bin

If you judge and bitch and complain about people - get in the bin

If your attitude is ‘if you’re not with me you're against me’ -?

GET IN THE F**KIN BIN

For those of you that are not in the bin and if you’re a driven and successful man, a man who cares, who wants to make the world a better place. A man who understands that the best way to do that is by working on yourself and your mindset. If you’re a man who understands that your life is not about you but all the lives you impact then you’ll be interested in joining my community that I’m launching next month.

Something I’ve realised having done a lot of work on myself and from working with a tonne of men in my coaching business is that despite being more connected than ever we’ve never been as disconnected in reality. And this is something I feel disproportionately affects men.

So if you want to be part of a community of like minds. A community that will encourage you, lift you up, connect you to good people. If you want to be in touch with other men who want to impact people's lives, who want to make the world better and be in a place where masculinity and everything positive it brings to the table is celebrated and encouraged then this is FOR YOU. ????

No topic will be off limits, this will be real, raw and honest. It’ll be a community of tolerance and acceptance, where different views and perspectives are encouraged. Where we can have nuanced debates without shutting each other down and pointing fingers. We’ll talk about relationships, parenting, careers and business, we’ll share ideas and experiences. We’ll root for each other.

I’m not entirely sure how it will work yet. I’ve been thinking about starting a WhatsApp group or using an app like telegram. Because I know we’re all busy so I want to make it as frictionless as possible. I’m open to ideas.?

But what I do know is that a drive to be self reliant and a reluctance to ask for help is literally killing men. I get it. I’m like that too. After I burnt out in 2018 it took me 18 months or more to actually reach out and get some help and support. I’m so glad I did. I wouldn’t be where I am now if I didn't. Living my best life up in the hills of the Scottish Borders on a journey to self-sufficiency and sustainability, where my work and my life are integrated and chronic stress is a thing of the past.

So, fellas, please get in touch if this is of interest, and particularly if you have suggestions of how it might work. I reckon we’d have a monthly online call where we can all get together and create a mastermind. A network of like minds helping and encouraging each other. I’ll name it after my coaching business and life philosophy? - Positive Masculinity.

Who’s in?