Men: here's why she doesn't reply to you (according to research)

So, I did some research, and based on a sample size of 319 women, aged 18 to 54, here are the most common reasons why heterosexual women don't reply to men on dating apps - in order:

1. The man became overly sexual too quickly
2. Man asked for their number too quickly
3. Uninteresting first message
4. Man asked for a date too quickly
5. Conversation became dull
6. More interested in their other matches
7. Felt unsafe to meet in real life
8. Became too busy with work / life etc.
9. Changed their mind having seen his profile again
10. Stopped using the dating app

Methodology

We ran a survey on anonymous panel base platform, PollFish. The question we posed was,?With 1 being the most, and 10 being the least, what are the most common reasons you don't reply to men??with these reasons.

The reasons we put forward in the survey based on initial interviews conducted with various women.

Women then ranked from 1 to 10, the most common reasons for them. We also shuffled the answers to avoid any kind of selection bias.

Sampling

Mostly even age splits across four groups: 18-24, 25-34, 35-44, 45-54. We used a qualifying question,?"Which of the following best describes you?"?and then gave five options to choose from:

• Single, straight, and not using dating apps
• Single, straight, and using dating apps?(qualifying answer)
• In a relationship, straight, and not using dating apps
• In a relationship, straight, and using dating apps
• None of the above

Note - Pollfish only collect results from those who qualify. Those who did not qualify were not able to take the survey. We targeted the survey at women living in the United Kingdom, aged 18 to 54, with mostly even age group split, but some bias towards the 25 - 34 group.

Where to go from here?

• Avoid getting sexual too quickly
• Avoid asking for digits too early
• Make sure your first message is perhaps a light-hearted question about their profile (rather than "hi", "hey", "how are you")
• Don't push for a date too quickly (but don't be messaging for weeks and weeks either). Try requesting a date within a week or so.
• Be interesting eg. don't go into "interview mode" for example, try switching between questions and then statements, such as?"How did you get into [job]?", "Ah fair. Must be challenging. I love my job tbh - really passionate bout [x]. But not as passionate as I am about winning at Command and Conquer Generals"
• Be funny (in another study, we found the overwhelming majority of women want you to make 'em laugh).
• Have a decent profile - ideally get some pro photos taken, spell check, and be unique (for example, so many men say they like going to the gym or going for a run... boring. Lots of people do! It's necessary if you're an office worker and work in a sedentary job. Try to stand out a bit. Do you have any really quirky or niche interests or hobbies?)

Sources of bias

This research was funded by my dating app company,?FDBK?- a dating app which coaches users on how to be a better dater (do signup to our London launch).

So make of it what you will. I cannot guarantee the absence of bias. But we've tried to be impartial about collecting the data as it benefits everyone.

Also, note that we excluded women in relationships already who are using dating apps (IIRC, around 15% of women on dating apps are in relationships from another study we did).