Men of few words are wiser

"If it takes a lot of words to say what you have in mind, give it more thought." – Dennis Roth. "Wisdom is the reward you get for a lifetime of listening when you'd have preferred to talk." - Doug Larson. "The reason a dog has so many friends is because he wags his tail instead of his tongue." – Anonymous. "The superior man is modest in his speech, but excels in his actions." – Confucius. "Since in order to speak, one must first listen, learn to speak by listening." -- Rumi

Basically, your friends are saying that you are so insecure that you are unable to remain silent while others converse, but instead much monopolize the conversation, or at least fill every moment of quiet with noise. It's not an attractive feature in either gender, frankly. So the secret to learning to hold your peace is to begin exploring what you feel so insecure about, and why you are unable to enjoy quiet. Learn to meditate. In each case where there is a lapse in conversation, allow a good 30 seconds or a minute to go by before you jump in to fill the void. Often silence says more than any words can.

How do you differentiate between wisdom and intelligence? By being wise, you observe and listen and think more. Even if you don't say anything right, you should not be saying something wrong. For you may never be able to retrieve a bullet fired or a word spoken. If your word is going to hurt someone, you will have done great damage to many and break relations. If you talk more and give some word to someone unnecessarily but try to keep it, you may lose everything you have. Speech is silver but silence is golden.

We should not lie or hurt others. When we speak, some times we may lie. So silence is better to avoid this. You are already wise. You be confident about that. Everyone already has wisdom. But you have to get wiser. That is the way ahead. Being wise is also being smart. Wisdom is the fruit in the tree of Knowledge! Some think wisdom comes only from experience. It is not right. There are other ways to get wiser or be wise such as listening to all, whether they are your friends or foes, near ones or far ones.

By observing others silently and keenly thinking of the "why" of everything. Serving elders and wiser ones, who share their wisdom. By acquiring a good general knowledge. Each person in this world is unique. Even mono-zygotic twins are not exactly the same. One may be good at something by nature and another may learn the same thing with great difficulty. You may call it Karma, Past birth Experience, or, if you are bitten by the science bug, you may take it to be "the way the person's brain wired is such that he/she is wiser than others."

The story of Ganesha, a Hindu God, is a symbol of wisdom. His life story hints at how to get wise. He served his parents and acquired the knowledge of the entire world without even seeing the world himself. Big ears of Ganesha are symbolic of listening to all people even if they are near to you or far from you. Ganesha's Trunk indicates, poke your nose into everything. i.e. learn something about everything and everything about something. Big head indicates to think well before you talk or take decisions. You don't have to die yourself to know what happens when you die. You can learn from others' experience.

Therefore, instead of discussing whether it is possible to fix an elephant's head to a human body, we can try to understand the symbolic meanings hidden in the Indian Gods' Statues. Wisdom is practical power whereas intelligence is potential power. We need to just build up your patience by taking deep breaths and by doing meditation . it will help to stay calm in most of the unfavorable situations. Build up the power of listening. God gave us two ears for listing twice and then to speak . always try to focus on listening of others than speaking. it will improve your knowledge and your attitude. Read as much as you can. Always find time for spend on books of different topics. it will lead to improve your knowledge , skill and vocabulary and you have collection of effective words. you can say your things in a less and effective and impressive way.

Learn to focus and notice everything whenever you free just try to focus on things and people which are around you and notice. You will definitely learn some good things from everyone.like way of talking , posture ,expressing yourself. In your mind imagine yourself listening and not talking, learn another way to express yourself other than talking .. try writing or recording i.e.talking, but to yourself. Try to limit your talking time.. like order yourself not to talk from 5 to 6 pm for example .. or any time you choose and for long as you wish .. and make sure to tell your friends and people around you so that they don't think you're rude or anything! This will help you hear your thoughts rather than your voice

Listen to others without waiting for your turn to talk .. listen and don't interrupt till they're done talking. Take time to think your words, it's not a must that you answer or reply instantly .. take in what you heard even if you don't like it to be able to know what's the best reply. Cheers!