#MediationQuickTips Issue 10: Demonstration Mediation Video - Correct & Incorrect Practice.

This filmed demonstration roleplay was done by Gerry O'Sullivan at 'The Mediator's Institute of Ireland's' annual conference in October 2023.?The brief was to demonstrate a mediation process where mistakes in practice would be made and where members of the audience are invited to comment on screen or verbally.?

In this roleplay I concentrate on the thinking, inferences and assumptions parties made at the start of their developing negative view of each other. I do this by using the skill 'Thought Flow Tracking' which I covered in Newsletter: Issue 9.

You will observe me demonstrating how the initial inferences and assumptions of mediation participants, based on their unique paradigm, can impact their perception and interpretation of all subsequent events. When this is teased out using 'Thought Flow Tracking', it leads to mutual understanding and creates the context whereby remaining issues are solved more easily.

This demonstration is actually quite funny! I did not expect to enjoy it so much as demonstrating in front of your peers is quite an awesome task.

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Welcome to this #MediationQuickTips Newsletter

It is divided into three sections:

1. Mediation Quick Tips
2. Theory behind the Mediation Quick Tips
3. How to apply this theory to a Mediator’s practice

1. Mediation Quick Tips

We cannot create a paradigm shift in the thinking of mediation participants unless we find out what they are thinking.

We need to use the skill: 'Thought Flow Tracking' that I covered in my last newsletter - Issue 9. We need to take the time to listen closely to the exact words used by a participant, reflect back the words used, unless they are toxic words, in which case we need to reframe them by taking the toxic out but leaving the truth in. Then we need to ask questions about those words.

2. Theory behind Mediation Quick Tips

In this video demonstration, I deviate from the conventional mediation framework and do not hear the full narratives of participants at this joint session, followed by listing their issues and going through them one by one.?

Instead, I concentrate on their thinking, as well as the inferences and assumptions they made at the start of their developing negative view of each other.? To do this effectively, I need to use 'Thought Flow Tracking' (as covered in the previous newsletter)? and thought the demonstration mediation you will observe me reflecting back what I hear, then asking questions solely about what I hear while I take a participant through the thought flow track.?

The goal is to demonstrate how our initial inferences and assumptions, based on our own unique paradigm, can impact our perception and interpretation of all subsequent events. When this is done, it leads to mutual understanding and creates the context whereby remaining issues are solved more easily.

This methodology can be used at appropriate times throughout a mediation process. ?

3. How to apply this theory to practice?

Watch this demonstration mediation video.

Note: There is some blurriness on the screen for the first minute, this occurred at filming stage ?– apologies. ?

Demonstration Mediation Video: Incorrect & Correct Practice - Exploring Thinking & Inferences

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