It is me or them?

A time will come that you might find yourself doubting. Doubting your abilities, your knowledge even your whole life. I am a big fan of reflection and thinking but not a fan of procrastination and inactivity.

There is no such a thing as perfection. For many years I was listening to the people I used to admire Nelson Mandela, Matin Luther King, Tony Robbins and so many others. Every one of them at some point they were showing their vulnerability, not as a weakness but as a strength! Isn't a strength to forgive those who put you in jail? Wow, for me it was mind blowing.

I was searching the perfect life, the perfect me but I wasn't feeling happy. The day that I have accepted myself genuinely and by accepted I mean accepting and acknowledging my weakness and my strengths with honesty and love. Since that moment I felt free and happy. As if a weight was lifted from my shoulders. That need the prove to my parents that I was enough.

Even though I was a straight A student, the first reader of the school when it comes to reading books and I never felt "enough" there must be something more I was thinking. I love learning. You know what I did every night since I remember? When I was going to bed I was asking myself what new thing I learned today? If I haven't learned anything new then i would open the history book usually and read something. Then I could only go to bed happy.

At the current period of my life, I must understand something in order to process it even if it's a famous theory, I will still challenge it, That's how my mind operates. If you are like me it means you are a thinker and sometimes this might put us into troubles.

How do you react when someone tells you that you are wrong? or doubt your abilities? your knowledge? In the past I would think about their comment for days maybe months trying to convince them that I am right and I am good in what I do. Then I realized that no matter what you do or how kind of a person you are there will still be people that will not like you either way due to their lack of confidence or for any other reason.

As you might know already we cannot control or monitor other's people behaviors but we can control how we react towards their behavior. Now, after an amazing spiritual awakening journey for the last 15 years how will I react? I will listen to their comment. I will go home and think about it even study about it if it is related to work. If they have a point I will take it with me, if they don't I will not allow myself to create doubts in my mind about my capability.

The most important thing is to trust yourself and accept the fact that not all people are interested for your own good. That not all people are meant to be taken into serious account. You can listen but you must have a grading system.

When I got divorced which it was one of my worst experiences. Abuse, violence, eating disorders, insomnia, guns. It was like a scary movie! I had to protect myself from all those "experts" around me. I created a grading system for people. I will analyze that person's opinion whether is important or not to me based on their age, knowledge, life story, experience and ethics.

If someone is talking to me about finance and they have nothing to do with that industry, then they are not more knowledgeable than myself. If I talk to Warren Buffet then definitely I will listen to him and consider maybe his opinion. But again I have my own critical thinking because I know better what makes me happy. Mr Buffet and I we had totally different up bringing and we have different aspirations therefore I will filter his opinion and take what is good for my personal situation.

You are the expert for what is good for you and what is not, Now if you are choosing to ignore your own instinct that's another story.

Never doubt yourself based on other's people comments. You know your worth and you don't have to prove it to anyone. Don't be afraid of people leaving or not liking you . It means they are not meant to be in your life. You will decide who you are and want to become.

Have a happy Sunday

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Nadia

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