'Me Monsters' in Workplace and VOC Settings

By: Deryck Hart

How I Learned to Manage "Me Monsters" in Professional Settings

About ten years ago, during a professional sales training session, I was introduced to a video skit called "Me Monster" by Brian Regan. Since then, I’ve shared it countless times, as it humorously emphasizes the importance of encouraging a "diversity of thought" and ensuring equal participation in discussions. The skit became particularly relevant to me when conducting Voice of Customer (VOC) feedback sessions. In these settings, I often encountered individuals who dominated the conversation, drowning out the valuable input of others. It was easy to see how the momentum of open dialogue could be quickly deflated by a single "Me Monster" who overwhelmed the group.

Understanding the "Me Monster" Behavior

The "Me Monster" is a person who relentlessly steers every conversation towards themselves, turning even the most collaborative settings into a one-person show. Psychologically, this behavior is often rooted in narcissistic tendencies where the need for validation and dominance overpowers the natural flow of group interactions. These individuals are frequently found in competitive environments or roles that reward assertiveness and visibility.

Sociologically, "Me Monsters" can disrupt group dynamics, particularly in professional settings where equal contribution is essential. Whether in sales meetings, brainstorming sessions, or feedback groups, these individuals can stifle creativity and discourage others from sharing their insights.

Common Personality Types Exhibiting "Me Monster" Traits

Certain Myers-Briggs personality types are more prone to exhibit "Me Monster" behavior, particularly those that are extroverted and focused on status. These include:

• ENTJ (The Commander) - Natural leaders who can sometimes dominate conversations.
• ESTP (The Entrepreneur) - Energetic and action-oriented, often taking center stage.
• ENFJ (The Protagonist) - Charismatic, but may overshadow others in their enthusiasm.
• ESFP (The Entertainer) - Enjoy being the center of attention, occasionally at the expense of others.

These profiles, detailed on 16personalities.com, are naturally inclined towards leadership and assertiveness, which, when unchecked, can lead to behaviors that stifle group input.

Managing "Me Monsters" in the Workplace

While understanding the psychology and personality traits behind "Me Monster" behavior is crucial, managing these individuals effectively is even more important. Here are some strategies:

• Redirect the Conversation: Gently steer the conversation away from the "Me Monster" by asking for input from others in the group.
• Challenge with Facts: Politely question the accuracy of their statements, which can deflate their sense of superiority.
• Set Boundaries: Be assertive in setting communication boundaries to prevent them from dominating discussions.

Professional Insights and Quotes

Incorporating insights from modern-day thought leaders can provide additional depth to this topic:

• Adam Grant: “The most meaningful way to succeed is to help others succeed.” This quote contrasts "Me Monster" behavior by emphasizing collaboration.
• Kim Scott: “True leadership is about inspiring others to follow your lead, not forcing them to.” This highlights the pitfalls of dominance-focused leadership.
• Brené Brown: “Vulnerability is not winning or losing; it’s having the courage to show up and be seen when we have no control over the outcome.” This addresses the underlying insecurity that drives "Me Monster" behavior.
• Simon Sinek: “Leadership is not about being in charge. It’s about taking care of those in your charge.” This quote aligns with the idea that true professional success is collaborative, not self-centered.

Conclusion

The "Me Monster" is more than just a humorous skit—it’s a real phenomenon that can undermine group dynamics and stifle valuable input. By recognizing this behavior and managing it effectively, professionals can foster a more inclusive and productive environment where everyone’s voice is heard.

For those interested in personality types, I encourage you to explore more at 16personalities.com to understand how different traits can influence behavior in the workplace.