It Matters What Happens

“Your living is determined not so much by what life brings to you as by the attitude you bring to life; not so much by what happens to you as by the way your mind looks at what happens.”

― Khalil Gibran

We have seen the phrase that life is 10% what happens and 90% how and what we do about it. There are times where we may examine the situation of others and marvel at how they handled a situation. The essence of those who we hold in high regard is how they handle storms, setbacks, and situations seemingly without effort. However, so it is with us and the fact that we have a true calling to rise above our own circumstances with dignity, strength, and class. It is all about our perception, perspective, and persona that determines the extent of what we say or do. Allow yourself to examine the 10% a little closer prior to calling upon the 90% response.

You made a mistake:  Step back and look at how you might have done it differently.  This is not code for replaying the scene continuously.  No, that speaks to staying in the past.  Simply learn the valuable lesson the experience is designed to teach you and make the necessary adjustment.

Situations are not designed to happen to us as much as they are to happen for us.  The journey takes many twists and turns and these adventures can strengthen our resolve and resiliency. The problem is that some see each situation as the end all when it is simply a blip.  Things are never as bad as they seem.  Yes, there are times where our lives are forever changed; yet, as long as we have breath, we have a chance to rebound and carry on. 

Life is going to happen.  No matter our background, economic situation, or social status, things are going to happen that set us back.  The most invaluable lessons are during the stormy seasons of our lives.  Life can really kick our butts and leave us flat on our back.  However, when you are in that situation, where are you looking?  Most likely, it is Up.  So it is with our circumstance.  Things will begin to look up yet we have to do our part to move along that process.

Whatever happens, the key is how you respond.  The steps you take will allow you to learn, grow, and gain  a new found confidence.  So whatever happens, you are in control with your response!  So, move on and move up