The March Childhood Trauma Newsletter

Hi Trauma Champion,

Welcome to the March edition of the Childhood Trauma Newsletter! Inside you will find out why meditation isn’t for everyone and what we can do to help children use mindfulness practices without triggering a trauma response. I will also share with you?the trauma champion of the month, Cissy White, and the hopeful news of Positive Childhood Experiences (PCEs)! The antidote to Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) and how they can mitigate the impact of developmental trauma. This March edition is packed with helpful skills and hopefulness for those who are raising or working with children in these challenging times. I hope you find it helpful.

TRAUMA TIPS FOR MEDITATION AND MINDFULNESS

Last month, I created a post about trauma-informed meditation and mindfulness that went slightly viral on?my LinkedIn page. Due to the rise in meditation in schools and other places children spend time, it is critical that we understand the potential to trigger children with a history of trauma. The good news is there are things we can do to prevent triggering the trauma response, and if we are aware of them, we can prevent adverse outcomes.

Can mindfulness and meditation be helpful for children? Absolutely. Not all meditation requires us to sit still or be quiet. There are many alternatives we can provide children so they can find what works best for them. However, we must also be aware of the potential to do unintentional harm and prevent it when possible when offering traditional forms of meditation to children.

For example, meditation that requires children to sit still, lay down, or close their eyes can activate a trauma response. When children are traumatized, their bodies and mind are often in a state of hypervigilance. This state means they frequently feel as though there is an imminent threat to their life, even though they may be completely safe.?

Hypervigilance is a protective state created by our nervous system based on our past experiences with trauma. The goal of this state is to protect us, but it makes it very hard to sit still, be quiet, or think clearly. Certain types of meditation ask the body to do something that feels unsafe, and this can exacerbate the trauma responses. In addition, memories or emotions could flood the mind when a child attempts to be still and present, stirring up anxious responses that could get them in trouble in the classroom instead of relaxing their nervous system. Additionally, calming the body and mind could also send the child into a dissociative state that appears to be meditation but is a trauma response. Can you see how tricky this can be??

You may have tried to do meditation yourself, and it made you feel anxious or panicky. This is a typical response. There's nothing wrong with you if you don't like meditation. It's not for everyone.

What can we do to reduce the chances of triggering a child during meditation??

Adults must be aware of the risks and learn trauma-informed meditation for children. Here are some tips to help make your next meditation at home or in the classroom trauma-informed. This is not a comprehensive list. You should seek professional training in this area if you regularly meditate with children.?

Tips for Trauma-Informed Mindfulness

• Let participants know that they can stop, move, or leave the room at any time
• Provide various anchors besides the breath - such as hands or feet. The further out from the body's core, the better (for some people).
• Tell children that not everyone feels comfortable doing meditation, and it’s ok if they don’t like it. Shaming a child for not wanting to participate could create intense activation in their nervous system
• Allow participants to keep their eyes open or downcast instead of closed, whichever they are comfortable with
• Suggest a moving meditation instead of laying or sitting still
• Allow the children to lie facedown if they choose. This can feel soothing and grounding to the nervous system
• Include music or use a guided meditation created for children
• Know the symptoms of dissociation while meditating and be prepared to intervene
• Check-in with the children afterward and follow up on anything you noticed

Example: “I noticed you didn’t want to close your eyes. What was the meditation like for you? It’s ok if you feel afraid. That can happen when we do meditation and there's nothing wrong with you.?What might make it easier for you next time?”

There is often the assumption that meditation and mindfulness have specific rules. But, we can bring meditative practices into art, cooking, walking, playing/listening to music, dancing, and other activities that could be less triggering for some people.?

I want to be clear that I believe in the healing power of mindfulness and meditation. Still, I also think how it is traditionally practiced in the United States can aggravate trauma symptoms in some people. Children with trauma don’t have a blinking sign over their heads alerting us that they might be triggered, so it’s beneficial to take precautions and provide trauma-informed instruction whenever you offer meditation.??

TRAUMA CHAMPION OF THE MONTH

I include this section in my newsletter to highlight the work of colleagues and other inspiring people in trauma-responsive and healing-centered care. I think it’s essential that we lift each other and look to each other as comrades in preventing and healing childhood trauma. So, without further ado this month’s Trauma Champion and colleague of mine is…?

Cissy White

Christine “Cissy” White is a writer, mother, health activist, and trauma survivor. She manages the?Parenting with ACEs Group?on the?ACEs Connection. ACEs = Adverse Childhood Experiences. She founded?Heal Write Now?in 2014, hoping to be the woman she needed her whole life – a public person openly living, loving, and parenting with PTSD. She leads Parenting with PTSD & ACEs workshops for trauma survivors and treatment providers.

Cissy is the co-founder of the #FacesOfPTSD campaign.?She credits the unconditional love of pets with helping her survive childhood and traumatic stress. She believes writing is a portable and affordable tool available to and beneficial to almost everyone.?Her survivor-led advocacy has been written about in the?Atlantic,?Huffington Post, and The Mighty. She believes any trauma-informed initiative must be informed by trauma survivors to be effective. White’s writing can be found in?The Boston Globe, Ms. Magazine, To Write Love on Her Arms, The Mighty, Spirituality & Health, ACEs Connection,?Elephant Journal,?ACEs Too High,?and at her website,?Heal Write Now.?

Cissy is a wealth of knowledge and a beautiful human being. Please check out her website to learn more about her journey.?

RESOURCE OF THE MONTH

Did you know that?research by Harvard University?shows that all children need to thrive is?one?caring, committed, and loving adult?

If you feel burnt out caring for children with trauma, you are not alone. It can feel impossible to go on. You might even feel sad about the life or child you thought you would have. However, there’s nothing wrong with you grieving this unspeakable pain. In fact, if you do grief work around this pain, you might find it reduces frustration and creates tolerance for the relationships in front of you.?

If you need inspiration on the power of one caring adult, watch this?short video?by Josh Shipp, or check out?this research?by Johns Hopkins University on the mitigating impact of?positive childhood experiences?on?adverse childhood experiences.?

Save this email to revisit during your tough days when you need support. Thank you for being so committed to children who need you more than you know. Please don’t give up. Behavior is a messenger, and I believe kids always do their best.?

WHAT AM I UP TO?

Last week I attended the RootsTech Conference on behalf of Connect Our Kids. This non-profit technology company unites children in foster care with safe and loving people from their past or extended family tree FOR FREE. About 7,000 people attended the conference in person, and there were rumors of another 20+ million attending online! Representing COKids as their new Director of Trauma-Informed Practices was a tremendous honor.?

COKids CEO Jennifer Jacobs , and COO, Jessica Stepleton Stern took the main stage at RootsTech to announce a collaboration with Family Search - the largest genealogy company in the world and the owners of Ancestry.com. It was an experience I will never forget, and it inspired me to want to learn more about my family heritage and ancestors. After all, knowing who and where we are a from can heal trauma, empower us to overcome adversity, help us build a strong sense of self, and grounds us in an often topsy-turvy existence.?

After reading this newsletter, I encourage you to head over to?ConnectOurKids.org?to learn more about the life-changing work we do for children in foster care and beyond.??

Over the last few months, Connect Our Kids and I have been creating an attachment-based trauma-informed training for child welfare professionals called “Why Connections Matter.” It is part of a three-tiered training program designed to educate child welfare professionals and others working with children in foster care about developmental trauma and how healthy connections are the path to healing.?

I’ve had the honor of collaborating with foster and kinship care expert? Allison Davis Maxon , author of The Seven Core Issues in Adoption and Permanency, to create The Why Connections Matter training, which will be a game changer for child welfare professionals and social workers across the country! It’s experiential, innovative and will engage the audience in a completely new way. Say goodbye to sleepy presentations when you work with us!?

Alongside Connect Our Kids, I also started creating content for season two of the Connections Matter Academy (CMA), an animated short form video series to help teens (and others) cope with childhood trauma. Subscribe to my newsletter, and I will let you know when the new videos are ready. It will be several months at the earliest, but I promise they will be worth the wait!?

The CMA contains 3-minute clips that educate and entertain young people who have experienced adversities such as foster care, kinship care, adoption, or homelessness. You can watch season one on our YouTube channel and subscribe?to receive notifications about new videos.

APRIL IS CHILD ABUSE PREVENTION MONTH

April is Child Abuse Prevention Month across the United States! In Pennsylvania, where I live, we will light up the Capitol blue to spread awareness about child abuse prevention. Our symbol for the month of April is the pinwheel because every child deserves a carefree and playful childhood.?I am a fierce supporter of play for not only children but also adults. More on that in a recent post on my LinkedIn page.

Personally, I believe we should change the name from “Child Abuse Prevention Month” to something like “Family Preservation Month,” but that’s just me. I would rather be working toward a positive long-term goal than avoiding a horrible outcome. What do you think? Feel free to respond to this topic with your thoughts. I love hearing from all of you!

I am a co-chair of the Pennsylvania Child Abuse Prevention Team, and if you want to help preserve family well-being in PA, I would be happy to interview you to become a member of our action team. If you are interested, please reply to this email or learn more about creating a trauma-informed Pennsylvania at?HealPA.org or by connecting with Dr. Maryann McEvoy EdD , the head of child advocacy for the state of PA. We can’t talk about trauma without taking action!

Thank you for taking the time to read my newsletter today. I know how little time adults have as we juggle multiple stressors in life, but I’m so honored that you spent your time with me. I am learning alongside of all of you, and it's one of the greatest joys of my life to do this work.

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Take good care of yourselves, Trauma Champions, and hold onto the glimmers of hope each day.?You can contact me with comments or questions at [email protected]

With compassion,

Beth