Manners Maketh the Man

Son:

As you grow older, I want to share some lessons about manners and etiquette that will serve you well throughout your life. Remember, manners maketh the man, and by practicing these principles, you will not only gain respect but also contribute to a more considerate and compassionate community.

1. Shake a man's hand with a firm grip and look him in the eye. Never shake a man's hand sitting down or with your left hand. This simple gesture portrays confidence, respect, and a genuine interest in the person you are greeting; it leaves a positive impression and shows that you are on the same level as that person.
2. During meals, be patient and wait for everyone to be served before you begin eating. Remember to chew with your mouth closed and avoid speaking with food in your mouth. Keep your elbows off the table as a sign of good posture and respect. And when a lady leaves the table, it's a sign of courtesy to stand as a gesture of respect.
3. Return a borrowed vehicle with a full tank of gas. This small act of thoughtfulness reflects your integrity and gratitude.
4. Time is a precious resource, and being punctual demonstrates your respect for other people's time. Arriving late not only inconveniences others but also implies a lack of consideration and responsibility. Always strive to be on time or, even better, a few minutes early. If you are early, you are on time. If you are on time, you are late. Always be early.
5. Take the blame and give the credit. Even if it's not your fault, as a leader and a man you have the broad shoulders to carry that burden. Even if you deserve the credit, play the long game and make sure you lift up others by giving it to them.
6. Acts of kindness and chivalry never go out of style. Holding doors open for others is a polite gesture that shows respect and consideration. Additionally, be attentive to those who may need a seat. Offer your seat graciously, putting their comfort before your own.
7. Watch your language when in public. Cussing is a sign of ignorance and disrespect. Don't be too ignorant to think of an alternative word to use or too disrespectful and self-centered to not consider the people around you.
8. In a world filled with constant distractions, it is important to be present in the moment. When spending time with others, resist the urge to constantly check your phone. Remember, human connections are more valuable than virtual interactions.
9. Say "Please" without expectation and be thankful when you say "thank you." Use these as a genuine display of respect, not as a formality.
10. Use "Sir" and "Ma'am" as much as you can. If you do not know the person, this is required. Addressing others with respect is a mark of good breeding and courtesy. When unsure about someone's name or title, default to "Sir" or "Ma'am." These simple words convey politeness and honor, regardless of the person's age or position.

Son, as you navigate through life, remember that your manners and behavior reflect your character and integrity. By embracing these principles of etiquette, you will earn the respect and admiration of those around you.

This is also a reflection of your family name. When you show respect and have manners it shows that your family has instilled these values in you. When people interact, communicate with, and associate with you they are also doing all of this with your family. By practicing these principles, you are not only showing respect to those you interact with but those that have come before you.

Manners truly maketh the man, and I have no doubt that, with these values in your heart, you will become a gentleman who positively impacts the lives of those around you.

Dad