Mannerisms of seeking for help!!
We are constantly in some or the other need of HELP professionally and personally as we are all here to co-exist. I am always experiencing 3 types of approaches . I thought re-thinking on approach will help our perspectives and change the way (for good of course!)we approach when seek for help of any kind- Small , effective and and high impact help!
- Asking help from an extremely close buddy - No judgements no setting up tone, no pretexts are needed . We feel so damn comfortable to even say “Hey, $$##%%” I need it, I know you are bloody good at it…C’mon help me!! Thank you “$$##%%” - Usually there are less than 5 - 8 people with whom we can talk like this . If there are more , its great!! Well, I am only talking about ‘that genuine connect’ . Deliberately not included our large Indian joint family members' count in this context as thats irrelevant for here and somehow needless to say we are good in maintaining relationships with our relatives (mostly obligations) .Its anyway imbibed in people (Me excluded) .
- Asking from a close friend who is also professionally linked , has good intentions to help and always ready to mutually partner he he/she needs your help. Greeting , understanding of availability to help and working based on their comfort level is like a must. Taking out that time and effort for all of that is a good mannerism (Remember ? you never know what others are going through) . Its purely in the interest of my personal, social and professional responsibility that I connect with right mannerisms. At times, some people ask , how the hell does it matter whats right or whats wrong..It seems people forget, especially the way we have been raised has such a high hand in our approach towards people we like/dislike . What feels right for self is whats right. Period. If its not bothering you about how it makes you feel after certain mannerisms , no need to change it. But if deep down if it bothers and irks , immediately identify and consciously make attempts to either do course correction or practice in your second chance(there is always a second chance in people centric roles , responsibilities; then watch how did it make you feel about yourself :)
- Very professionally linked and also having good intent to help out - There is only one way to approach here ( at least , I don’t know any other way)- And thats with Politeness, on mutually available timeline and with no pressure whatsoever after setting up context and with the usual wait -to-respond period mindset!
I have seen in my personal/professional experience People in my life moving from third type to the second or first type. Also from 1st Type to the second or third type and hence that learning :)
The size of the content in each point more or less depicted the complexities of relationships we deal with in people centric role (any role depending on whether you consider you consider your role as people centric or not)
Which type of approach do you use on what type of people in your life? and is that your favourite approach?
Also want to use this platform to express my gratitude towards all the people in my network who are directly /indirectly extremely helpful in my life's journey! Truly Thankful! I also thank those people in my life who have helped me by not being helpful! They are irreplaceable when it comes to being 'that' source of learning!
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