Managing Expectations

I never knew a simple "Managing Expectation" Reina Trust Workout session can be so powerful and transformative for me.

The man is me, and the woman is someone I love (or metaphorically can be anyone whom I live or work with). I turned away not because I am turning away from her, but I do not want to let her seeing me crying. But I never realised at that instance when both of us were hurting, at that very moment, she was in most need of my love, my consolation, my comfort, my presence, my assurance and affirmation, an answer from me ...

I was too consumed with my own feelings that I neglect her. What she felt from me was abandonment, rejection, cowardliness ... and she felt betrayed. It is not because we don't love each other, it is because of the very reason we love each other so much that the trust that is being broken so easily and the betrayal felt is even stronger, and we fail to manage both our expectations of ourselves, and the expectation of each others.

When i look back - was I doing the same with my family members (unconsciously and in ways that were unintentional and subtle), my colleagues, my friends, my staff, my associates ... it can be just as simple as not responding to email or messages, or having a cold response, or not being presence, or shutting myself up, or not spending quality time (especially with my kids), or not follow up (with clients), or too busy until forgetting promises or overlooking agreements, or even neglecting my own health (I am the man, my health is the woman in the picture), or my spiritual being ...

What is my own expectation of myself? Am I betraying myself? Who am I trusting?

We put our trust in money, bigger cars, bigger house, better lifestyles, the worldly things, higher qualifications, keeping up with the trend, all the materialism ... in seeking meaning and happiness in life. But we betray ourselves, our being, our relationship with God, our relationship with our families, our health, our spiritual well being ...

Mid-way during the session, I rushed to the toilet and broke down.

This Reina Trust Building is really powerful and transformative. Not only for corporate leaders, teams and organizations, the same can be applied in families, churches, businesses and communities. We all need to build the capacity to trust, and building trust starts from ourselves.

Many leaders, teams, organizations, (same goes to families & communities) are looking for ways and intervention, taking initiatives and seeking out all sorts of methods and ways to improve staff engagement, increase leadership capabilities, increase performance and productivity.. when the very core and foundational work we need to look at, is building trust.