Managing Change through Self-Leadership

In last week’s article, we focused on Research, the crucial second step in navigating change. I encouraged you to think like Julius Caesar—plan strategically, and go all-in. Change isn’t something you can approach half-heartedly, and while you could try to wing it, that’s not the goal here. You want more from life, and to get that, you need to be prepared. The biggest takeaway?

Only share your plans with your most trusted advisor. When you’re in the vulnerable stage of change, excitement can push you to tell everyone, but not everyone will get it. Some will bring doubt or project their fears onto you—and you don’t need that negativity.

We also talked about asking the right questions, learning from those who’ve walked the path before you, and immersing yourself in knowledge—books, podcasts, interviews—so you’re equipped with the tools you need. Research is the foundation that allows you to move forward with clarity and confidence. Change demands full commitment, and thorough research ensures you can approach it with purpose.

This Week:

Reach – Network Like You’re Seeking a Marriage Proposal

Now that you’ve done your research, it’s time to Reach.

When you're going through a major change, you need to find your tribe. So how do you do that, especially when you’re starting fresh?

Network like you’re seeking a marriage proposal.

You try different groups and explore various circles, and when you find the people who share your values, goals, or experiences, you stick with them. This isn’t about forming quick, transactional relationships—it’s about building connections that will last a lifetime.

But here’s the key: Never pretend to be someone you’re not.

Authenticity is non-negotiable. If you want to be truly successful, you have to be genuine and live with integrity. Show people who you are and make the effort to genuinely get to know them too. This isn’t a once-off encounter where you meet someone and then move on. It’s about a steady, meaningful build-up of relationships that matter.

When I moved to the UK, four years ago, no one knew me. I networked relentlessly, putting in 20-30 hours a week, meeting new people, and joining different groups. At one point, I was part of seven associations and nearly burned myself out trying to keep up and pretending that they are all my tribe. I lost sight of being true to my core values and wanted to please everyone, I was desperate for acceptance.

Since then, I have narrowed it down to just three associations that align with my varied interests, skills and purpose. You don’t need to do it the hard way.

Find someone who has been there and done that.

A mentor is invaluable when you’re navigating new territory. Whether it was starting a new business, moving to a new country, or a major life change, I always made sure I had a mentor to guide me through the tricky parts and help me avoid common mistakes. If you can afford it, consider hiring a coach to help you through the process and hold you accountable. Don’t be afraid to ask for help—having someone in your corner can make all the difference.

If you’re ready to make a meaningful change in your life without feeling overwhelmed or anxious, I’m offering an intimate group coaching programme for career-driven women in the prime of their lives, starting in October. Sometimes hidden traumas can trigger change alongside hormonal fluctuations and cause a mass reaction of overwhelm, burnout and even depression. So, if you are ready to take back control of your life, body and emotions, and step into change with clarity, courage, and confidence, for good, then join our cohort. You’ll have the support of a like-minded community; with the guidance you need to thrive through change.

You don’t have to do this alone. Your tribe, your support system, and your best self are waiting.