Of Malevolent Complainers and Incorrigible Whiners

The WWE has held a special place in my heart for as long as I can remember. It is not the violence that captivates me the most, but rather the elaborate narratives and thrilling storylines that lead to the ultimate showdown.

Among all the global brands, WWE Network excels at effortlessly turning fans into fervent critics – they are experts in getting audiences to shift from liking to hatting a brand almost instantly. Seth Rawlings comes to mind here.

You might be thinking, "I don't care about being popular; I go to work and return to my loved ones. My work speaks for itself; as long as I excel, I don't need to be liked or like my colleagues." But deep down, nobody wants to be disliked.

Fortunately, if you are reading this, I am feeling rather generous this week, and maybe the next. I have taken it upon myself to run a three-part series on some subconscious habits that end up making us unlikable. In this first installment, let us focus on those perpetual complainers.

Many other writers might have touched on this topic, but I guarantee a fresh perspective that will intrigue and provoke you. To impact change is the hallmark of a writer. If everyone agrees with you, there is no point in writing it at all. Writers like me aim to challenge entrenched beliefs, question dogma, and ignite debates. Today, I hope to meet that standard.

Constant Complainers

Every office or team has them, or at least one: the constant complainers. To them, something or someone is always wrong. Their day starts with complaints. "Why is that alarm clock ringing now? I just fell asleep an hour ago!" Yet, you set the alarm the previous night.

How about trying this instead: wake up with a smile, say a little prayer, and consciously declare, "Today is going to be a great day." Give it a shot tomorrow morning and tell me how your Saturday goes. Sorry, let us start on Monday because somehow, your Saturday complaints always get postponed to Sunday evening.

Believe me when I say your mind is capable of working wonders beyond imagination. When you train it to be negative, your life becomes a breeding ground for negativity, and the universe eagerly contributes more. In essence, everyone faces challenges at some point, and your complaints will not magically solve them.

Negative Atmosphere

Constant complaining creates a negative atmosphere, which drains those around you and makes life very unpleasant. A more proactive approach is to propose solutions. Complaining without offering solutions is futile and helps nobody.

For one, colleagues and even to some extent your supervisors will lose patience and distance themselves from you. People find complainers frustrating when they dwell on endless oracles of problems without constructive solutions.

When complaints become excessive, people grow tired and start avoiding you. Friends suddenly become too busy when you visit their office, ignore your calls, and leave your messages unanswered. Frankly speaking, you cannot blame them, who gave you the right to own all the problems in the world and load it on others to solve them?

Complaining about computers not working… boda boda riders… insulting other road users… when it rains you complain and even more when the sun shines, so what exactly do you want?

If this sounds familiar, it is time to change your ways and stop complaining incessantly. Strive to be a positive influence. Let people enjoy their successes around you without fearing your complaints about the cost of living or health issues.

Bitter or Better?

Even when conditions are oddly stacked against you, instead focus on the things that you should be grateful for otherwise even that should be withdrawn by the provider. To quote one Dr. Eng. John Mativo MBS , “In this life, when you must choose between being bitter and better, choose better”.

Complainers can drain the energy from those nearby, making interactions exhausting rather than enjoyable. Moreover, excessive complaining can lead others to see you as helpless, especially for men who are expected to be in control and take charge.

While it is essential to express your feelings and concerns, maintaining a balance between sharing thoughts and nurturing a positive attitude can make you more likable and maintain healthy relationships, both at work and at home.

So now is just about the time to STOP complaining and do something about your attitude. The problem is YOU my friend - not the entire world!

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