Making Tough Choices

Part of changing your life's narrative, or rewriting your story, is having to make tough choices or decisions.

Let's be honest, up to this point you've probably been making tough life choices...

BUT...        

Those choices have usually been because of certain factors, like your kids, finances, a job, parents, partner and basically, anyone else you'd care to mention.

IN OTHER WORDS...        

You've made decisions mostly for the sake of pleasing others.

MY STORY...

I remember being offered the chance to go abroad and work with a hugely successful friend of mine. The offer was enticing and I knew it would open some interesting doors and elevate me to a world I'd only dreamed of....

I turned it down.

Why? Because my kids were young, my daughter was still so little and my partner was not the most supportive.

I allowed my family commitments to decide my life direction.

Now there's nothing wrong with that, as such, but had I thought about the possibilities and maybe if I'd investigated it further, I could have made it work.

Just because I had a young family, it didn't mean I couldn't still take up the opportunity. I could have talked it through and explored the possibilities.

Instead, it was actually a convenient excuse to keep myself small.

(And stay in a relationship that was woefully inadequate and eventually ended anyway.)

DON'T LET LIFE'S COMMITMENTS STOP YOU        

• It's so easy to let others get in your way, to decide the direction of your life.
• It's easy to make excuses when you've got the opportunity of a new direction.
• It's way too easy to let your fears and limiting beliefs block the life you dream of.

THIS IS YOUR STORY

?Isn't it time you made decisions that suited you?

?Would you like to look back on life and say, YES, I lived a magical life!?

Choosing to make decisions that will serve your highest priorities and take you to the place you desire to be is NOT AN OPTION, IT'S A NECESSITY!

CHANGE YOUR THOUGHTS        

???? Change the way you look at the decisions you make...????

??Take a seat, get a notepad and pen and do this...??

Make three columns

1. What's stopping you live that dream?
2. What does living that dream look like to you?
3. If you're dream was fulfilled what difference would that make to you?

Sometimes, we just have to see things written clearly and staring us in the face before we realise that if we don't do that thing we've dreamed of for so long.... then we'll never get up and do it!

Dreaming is wonderful but I believe you can make those dreams comes true if you want them bad enough.

Believe in your-SELF. Believe in your capabilities. Believe that you CAN have what you dreamed of.

? Don't let your dream die in your heart, locked away in a box because you don't think you're worthy of having it, or that it seems impossible.?

FINAL THOUGHT        

You can also try this, (from Gay Hendricks Five Wishes) - Think of yourself on your deathbed, (sounds harsh I know!) and consider 5 things that you wished you'd achieved.

??Think about how it makes you feel that you made them happen

?? ...and how you feel if you didn't.??

The point of this is to help you get clear on what matters to you most and then go out there and make it real!

P.S....        

• Midlife is the perfect time to start again. ??
• You deserve to live a magnificent life. ??

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