MAKING SUCCESS FUN

Several years ago, I got into a conversation with my friend and colleague of 60 years +, Trevor Frederick Chalk, about a mutual acquaintance whose level of success was only exceeded by his level of unhappiness. This junky of the "no pain, no gain" school of achievement continued to stir up his own discontent in a never-ending effort to stay motivated and achieve far more than he actually wanted in an attempt to fill a hole in his life, located, as best we could ascertain, in the middle of his heart. We then moved on to discuss how miserable people who call themselves "poor, but happy" generally are. Before despair had completely overwhelmed us, Trevor reminded me of a client we had both worked with who seemed to have the whole thing sussed - that is, she was happily successful and successfully happy! Well, it turned out that we both knew a number of people who fit this description and we set about identifying what "secrets" these people shared. Today's tip is our first public sharing of what we've learned... SECRET NUMBER ONE: *Success is fun when you're pursuing a "Big Grin" goal or dream* In the traditional personal success literature, success is measured by an amount of money, a brand of car, a size of house, or the length of a relationship. In the world of `Success Made Fun`, success is measured by how big your grin is as you go for and get what you want. SECRET NUMBER TWO: *Success is fun when it's balanced; when it covers every area of your life* The not-fun, draining, burnout-generating ways of pursuing success generally make you lopsided, like a bodybuilder with a huge upper body and spindly legs. Whether it's a great career with miserable relationships or spiritual enlightenment with no money to pay the rent, this sort of approach sows the seeds of failure in one part of your life even as it delivers success in another. You make success fun (and sustainable) when you make it holistic, recognising that you cannot change one part of your life without changing all of it. By following the same guiding principles in `EVERY` area of your life, you allow them to reinforce each other, building a web of structure and support strong enough to catch the lion of success in its snare. SECRET NUMBER THREE:

*Success is fun when you take bite-size actions and make small improvements consistently over time.* We call this process "incremental transformation", and like the old joke about how you eat an elephant (one bite at a time!), it's the happy alternative to deadline driven no pain no gain adrenaline overload (!) In fact, in the longest and largest study ever done on the structure of happiness, the ability to get ongoing feedback from mini-successes at every step of your journey was found to be indispensable to optimal experience at work and at play. SECRET NUMBER FOUR: *Success if fun when you have more support than you need.* One of the seven myths of success is the myth of self-sufficiency - that is, the idea that "it only counts if I do it myself". Yet the people we know who consistently succeed and have fun doing it surround themselves with an abundance of the right type of focused stimulus. As you focus on building your success team and on filling your reservoir of resources, you'll find yourself naturally drawn to the people, places, and ideas that will support you in creating the life of your "big grin" dreams. And if that weren't enough, when you align yourself with a like-minded community of other people who want to play in a game as fun as yours, your life (and success) will continue to grow in directions and proportions you have not yet imagined. SECRET NUMBER FIVE: *Success if fun when it comes to you.* We are so conditioned to thinking in terms of "the pursuit of success" that it never occurs to us to create the time and space in our lives to allow success to come to us. If you want to begin attracting success, you need to stop pushing long enough to feel the pull of life. Most people have experienced or witnessed at least one person achieving incredible results in their life shortly after "giving up" on a project or goal. You make success fun when you take the pressure off yourself to make things happen and allow them to happen in their own way, "as if by design". BONUS TIP: When people first here about the 'secret' of attraction, they often equate it with inaction. In fact, the real secret lies in finding what I call ‘The butterfly point' - the perfect balance between allowing and doing.

May all your success be fun and may all your fun be successful! Have fun, learn heaps and much, much more! Until next time.

`The Journey to Success`

Solutions to Lead You to Success Now

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