“MAKING IT REAL” FOR THE HOLIDAYS

Are you making your holidays real or just going through the motions? There’s nothing drearier and more difficult than a holiday on auto pilot, without much meaning. With Thanksgiving upon us and the others around the corner, it’s on my mind. I’ve been on both sides of this and have learned the hard way.

It’s been a time of positive interactions with people here and abroad. The more I have those experiences, the more this idea of making it real comes to me. It takes clear intention.

BRING LOVE TO THE TABLE

A special occasion deserves some special love. What can you say or do to express that? Fixing favorite foods says a lot, but what about putting some words to it as well. We don’t often say or hear how special and important we are to one another. This is the time. Go ahead and put it out there. Read a poem, say those heart felt things, play some music, dance, give thanks, celebrate one another.

MAKE IT PERSONALLY MEANINGFUL

There are many ways to do something traditional – what will make it personal and more meaningful? There is a reason Friendsgiving is a thing. Many families are scattered or dysfunctional in ways that make it uncomfortable. Create what works for you. You don’t have to stay in what doesn’t work.

LEAVE YOUR BAGGAGE AT HOME

Even if you do the traditional family gathering, there isn’t a family out there that doesn’t have some baggage. Make a decision to leave it – now’s not the time to dredge up the yuk. I’ve had numerous holidays ruined by this – surely you have too. Put your best mood and positive expectations forward – stay focused on how you want to show up.

BRING IN NEW PEOPLE AND TRADITIONS

Keep a look out for friends and neighbors who are alone and invite them in. You never know the difference that can make for someone. Mixing it up makes holidays more fun and interesting anyway. The best holiday my family had was in a rental cabin in the Smokies, with friends who are like family. We decorated a tree with handmade paper snowflakes and cranberry strands, cooked up a storm and hiked. It was wonderful – a precious memory that needs to be repeated.

Reach out if you want to make things more real in your life.