Making New Friends at 40

Having a moral code is vital. It is what defines your intentions and your beliefs. I am a woman of many flaws, but with stipulations and boundaries you will not cross. That was hard for me this week to reflect on because I made a new friend. Someone who was sophisticated, beautiful, amazing career, married with children, and seem to enjoy being a person who valued quality time with her friends like me. She was extroverted. We could talk for hours and dance. Today, I lost that friendship, I believe forever.

I have always been a little wild but I have always been responsible and respected my partners, or people I love. I make sure their moral code is respected when it doesn't agree with mine. That leads to this –– my partner making it clear he doesn't respect women in relationships who "act single" when they are out alone. I do not cheat on my partner, I do not flirt with other men, I do not give the impression that I am single for drinks or other wise?when I am out. I talk to people, yes, but I make it clear I'm married and I don't give the wrong impression. And I have always told my married friends, I'm going out to have a good time and catch up with you - not get drinks from men and flirt. They didn't like the "judgement" they felt at first but they knew me enough to understand. I told them, "This is not because I think you're a crappy person." I made it clear that I do not want to be a part of that behavior. I will lose respect for them in the end however. So it's best we agree or part.

Do that on your own time, not my time.

I go out to spend quality time and listen to music, maybe dance - nothing more, nothing less. They know me. They know my intentions are good and they have made sure that they value my time and friendship. I don't look down on people, I simply don't mix oil and water. Both elements are of the earth - so it's all good. It will work itself out.

Hopefully God will replace her with someone quickly soon. I adore GIRL TIME.