Making Meaningful Connections with Anyone

As boomer women, social connections can be more challenging, especially after we’ve left our jobs. You’ve left your network behind, and you’re starting fresh and new. So now what?

You have the power to make meaningful connections with people in your life -- whether it’s a neighbor, coworker, or someone you want a deeper relationship with. It can be easier than you think. Use these steps as you step out for more effective communication, to create mutual interest, and to make your life more fulfilling.

Here are five ways to do just that:

1.??? Ask for Their Opinion. People love to share their thoughts. Ask for their opinion on a topic that’s dear to you or for which you have a shared interest. As you get to know someone new, avoid controversy and emotionally charged topics. Those will come later.?

2.??? Listen. When they respond, listen. Ask more questions. Curiosity is a remarkable thing when you’re exploring a new connection. (Contrary to the popular cliché, it did not kill the cat!) Asking for an opinion and wanting to know more from them will move you into a trusting and respectful relationship more quickly than anything else.

3.??? Use Their Name, but Don’t Overdo It. Your name is music to your ears, and it’s the same for others. Many of us feel challenged when it comes to remembering names. It can help to repeat their name right after you hear it while looking at their face. It’s as simple as, “Very nice to meet you, Betty!” You can also associate the name with a characteristic. For instance, if you meet Susan, who loves gardening, think of her as Susan the Gardener. Use their name in conversation, but don’t overdo it. Repeating a name too often can seem insincere.

4.??? Notice Them. Pay attention to what they wear, talk about, and any other unique traits. Do they frequently mention their children? Are they passionate about a particular hobby? Truly noticing someone and caring about who they are helps build a deeper connection. Once you recognize these details, engage with them about those topics.

5.??? Plan to Reconnect. Don’t leave your next interaction to chance. Whether it’s a neighbor, someone you want to know better, or a potential client, take the initiative to reconnect. It shows you genuinely care about the relationship and are invested in keeping it alive. It might be as simple as a quick email, a note, or an invitation to coffee. The size of the gesture isn’t important. The fact that you reached out is.

6.??? Listen and Remember. Don’t dominate the conversation, or you’ll miss out on truly getting to know the other person. Listen actively and remember what they share. Bring it up in later conversations to show you’re genuinely interested and invested in them. This practice strengthens your connection and shows you value them as an individual.

Building more meaningful connections is entirely within your reach. Start by caring about the other person’s viewpoints and opinions. Use these tips to connect on a deeper level and enjoy more fulfilling relationships in every area of your life.

None of these tips are rocket science. They’re common sense. Sadly, this is a lost art in the age of technology. But you’re a boomer woman, and you grew up without technology. It’s time to return to your roots and meet in the flesh for some real conversation.

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