MAKING LOVE is Not for Sissies!

When we first married, an older friend suggested we put a bean in a jar for every time we had sex in the first year of marriage. Then, beginning the second year, he said we should take a bean out of the jar for every time we had sex. He suggested that the jar would never be emptied.? He might have been right because we stopped counting!

A popular misconception is that having sex is the same as ‘Making Love.’

Much of the time, sex is a primal act done on the spur of the moment by instinct.? It can be delicious and make couples feel closer together, but ‘Making Love’ with someone is vastly different.

Sex is momentary, less for some than others.? Making Love, when done well, lasts a lifetime.? Over time, the primal urge for sex diminishes.? Learning to Love someone only grows in intensity.?

You can ‘make love’ with your spouse for a lifetime.

Daily, we create what matters or we don’t.? We create our experience.? We invest ourselves in the relationship, or we do not.

The goal is to arrive at a place where you are so conscious and aware of who you are that you see yourself in your other.? The two of you feel a sense of oneness.

To do this requires learning how to ‘make love.’?

The process is relatively simple.

1.??? You set a goal to grow in ‘love’ with your other forever.

2.??? You create a plan to understand yourself and the needs and wants of your partner.

3.??? You maintain awareness to know whether you are working toward or away from your plan.?

4.??? You teach yourself to adapt to changing life circumstances in you and your partner.

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5.??? You stay true to your plan no matter what evolves. You recognize that life tests us to see if we mean what we say.

6.??? You measure success.? Is what you are doing helping or hindering?? Does your partner feel loved?? If not, why?

7.??? You communicate at a level that ensures understanding between you.?

8.??? You and your partner know your intentions and mission and commit to staying the course.

9.??? Through observation and communication, you make course corrections.

10. You continue to learn how to love your other unconditionally.

I said the process is simple. However, it is prudent to recognize that the implementation is not.? This is where the rubber meets the road, so to speak.

Make love with wild abandon!

The reward is a lifetime of loving delight.

?Thanks for tuning in and being a fantastic partner in your marriage.

By Jimm Hughey, M.S., 'Delighted' Husband & Philosophical Life Artist

As a Conscious Marriage and Relationship Coach,?I help couples GROW these qualities to eliminate conflict, promote synergy, and allow dynamic self-development in a partnership.

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