Making a Good First Impression

You never get a second chance to make a first impression.

In an age where we’re more connected than ever, that statement has never been more relevant. Making a strong first impression is the key to building lasting relationships, both personally and professionally. Though it may seem simple, there’s actually quite a few essential behaviors, key factors, and important tips that go into creating a really great first impression. In my 12+ years of recruiting adventures, here are several that I have found most helpful:

1.     Punctuality

It doesn’t get any simpler than this: Wherever the stage is set for your meeting/get-together, be on time! Heck, even be 5-1o minutes early, especially if the location is in an area unfamiliar to you. This way, you can find parking and get where you’re going without putting yourself in a frazzled, unnecessary rush.

2.     Presentation

There’s no way to beat around the bush with this one … physical appearance matters. Now, this does not mean you need to look like a supermodel! But it does mean you need to consider the way you prepare and dress for the occasion. Whether it’s a business professional networking event with colleagues or a casual blind date set up by your best friend, creating an appropriate look for the setting can go a long way.

Make sure you select an outfit that is clean (yes, actually clean) and flattering while remaining true to your personal style. Be sure your hair is freshly groomed in a polished style, and please don’t overdo it on the cologne/perfume!

3.      Body Language

This is arguably the most important aspect to making a good first impression. Imagine meeting someone for the first time and during your interaction, there is minimal eye contact, the rare occurrence of a forced smile, and a generally unengaging demeanor. What kind of impression would that leave on you? Not a very good one, right?! So keep that in mind as you’re trying to drive your own positive first impression.

It starts from the moment you enter the location: making eye contact as you identify the person you’re meeting with, sharing a warm smile, and extending a firm (but kind!) handshake. As you sit down at the table/seating area, sit forward and up tall, back straight, leaning into the conversation to demonstrate you’re genuinely interested in what they have to say. Really tune into the conversation, actively listening and understanding the tone, smiling when appropriate but also being serious and supportive if the situation calls for it.

Be polite and courteous, using good manners, and always stay attentive. This person should have 100 percent of your attention, so shutting off your phone/tablet/laptop and other distractions where appropriate is really important. 

Above all else, be yourself! Being authentic to who you are while also displaying these behaviors can really go a long way.

4.     Communication is Key!

I’m a fast talker—especially when I’m really excited about an event, upcoming meeting, or opportunity. I tend to talk a mile a minute. I often have to remind myself to slow down and speak clearly so others can understand and share in my enthusiasm.

When communication gets off track or jumbled, so can our first impression, so it’s key to be conscientious of your communication style. If you’re a fast-talker like me, discreetly take a deep breath before you begin and speak at a slower pace than you’re accustomed to. In your head, you might sound like the verbal animation of a sloth, but I promise you it is coming out more clear, more concise, and more effective than you think.

If you tend to say “like” or “um” a lot throughout your everyday conversations, practice with a friend or trusted colleague to work on limiting those space-fillers. If you tend to talk very loudly, consciously work on a softer/warmer tone so others don’t feel like they’re being overpowered in a conversation. If the event/meeting is around a specific topic, make sure you research that topic (as needed) to ensure you can speak knowledgeably and with confidence when sharing ideas/information.

Be sure to ask open-ended questions that not only allow for open dialogue but also demonstrate your interest in getting to know that person (which also ties into body language above!). Communication truly is key, so be sure to speak confidently, clearly, and with a positive demeanor throughout the meeting!

5.      Fake It ‘Til You Make It

Let’s be honest, meeting someone new for the very first time can be really, really nerve-wracking. So what if the big day is here (or even if you find yourself in a spontaneous new meet-and-greet) and you’re just not feeling ready? Fake it! Now, I know this can seem confusing given I advised you earlier to be yourself, but faking it does not mean losing your authentic self. It simply means do your best to project poise and confidence even if you aren’t necessarily feeling it in that moment. Many psychologists say that putting a smile on your face, even when you’re not necessarily happy in that moment, is an instant, subconscious mood booster that can lift your spirits and bring you to that confident space. So if you’re faced with a new person you really want to impress but are just fraught with nerves, try putting a smile on your face, make that eye contact, and even make some small talk to ease in! I promise you will be OK.  

The reality is, it’s human nature to evaluate new people we meet. Statistics show it can take as few as seven seconds to make that first impression, and more often than not, we don’t get a second chance. So the next time you find yourself with a great opportunity to meet new people, use these tips to get you off on the right foot, and you’ll be well on your way to leaving lasting impressions and building meaningful relationships.