Making Big Decisions Together: A Blueprint for Unity in Marriage.
Paul A. Blake, M.A.
Counselor, Certified Life Coach & Youth Mentor, Author and Motivational Speaker
Marriage is a sacred journey filled with countless decisions, some small, others profoundly impactful. From career changes to financial planning, parenting decisions to moving, significant choices can either strengthen the bond between partners or lead to conflict. Proverbs 3:5-6 encourages us to place our complete trust in the Lord and not rely solely on our own wisdom. By submitting to Him in all aspects of our lives, we can find guidance and direction on our journey. Facing these moments together with harmony, insight, and trust can enhance your bond and guarantee that both individuals feel appreciated in the choices made.
Open and honest dialogue is important for making sound choices. Before deciding, it’s important to take the time to share your thoughts, concerns, and desires with one another in an open and honest manner. Approach your spouse with compassion and strive to grasp their viewpoint. In the spirit of wisdom, it is encouraged that we prioritize listening, exercise patience in our words, and manage our emotions with care. Instead of insisting on your own perspective, collaborate to discover a resolution that serves both of your interests and reflects your common beliefs.
Seeking God’s guidance is crucial when faced with major life decisions. Prayer should always be at the center of your discussions, asking for wisdom and discernment. Philippians 4:6 encourages us to "not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God." Inviting Him into your decision-making process helps ensure that choices are not driven by fear or impulse but by faith and trust in His plan.
Remember, compromise and patience are necessary. Not every decision will have an immediate answer, and sometimes waiting is necessary. If disagreements arise, revisit the conversation with love, grace, and a willingness to adjust. When couples make decisions together with respect, faith, and mutual understanding, they not only choose wisely but also strengthen the foundation of their marriage, building a future grounded in unity and trust."