Make Your Partner Feel Loved

People say “I love you,” around five months into a relationship. Although this doesn’t mean that feelings aren't realized or you're not showing your partner you love him /her before this mark, in this modern day of romance, five months seem like a respectable amount of time to have passed before dropping the L-word.

Saying “I love you “isn’t always easy. While some cultures say it all the time and want to hear it all the time (France!), other cultures struggle with saying it all (Netherlands!), let alone on a regular basis.

Those are some powerful words and depending on where you are in a relationship, it can either seal the deal or have your partner running for the door if they’re not quite ready.

But while that may be the case, that doesn’t mean you can’t say other things to make your partner feel loved. Phrases that include support, appreciation, and honesty can make your partner feel loved maybe even more than the words “I love you.”

If you think choosing precisely the right words doesn't matter much, you're wrong. A single word can have amazing power to change human behaviour, usually without our being aware of it. Which means those who know how to use powerful words convincingly have an advantage over everyone else. 

"I’m Proud Of You"

No matter what’s going on in your partner’s life, telling them that you’re proud of them can really make them feel loved? This is most especially true when they’re having a difficult time of things. It shows ultimate support.

 "You Make Me Want To Be A Better Person"

Although I realized this line is stolen from As Good As it Gets and tweaked a bit, it’s still a very powerful thing to say.

Very few people we know make us want to be better people, so when we come across those people who do and we tell them, it’s going to make their heart soar.

"I Love The Person I Am When I’m With You"

There’s no other great compliment in the world that telling the person you love that you love who you are when you’re with them. I mean, there just isn’t. It’s basically code for, “I love more than I’ll ever love anyone else in the world.”

"Are You OK?"

I realize this might seem a little boring, but it’s important to check in with your partner, because it not only shows you care, but that you love them. Whether you ask them how their day was, what they’re thinking, or just about the general welfare of their mind and body, it lets them know you give a damn.

"You Inspire Me"

While not everyone wants to be a muse, people do like to know that they inspire others, especially if that other is their partner. It’s evidence of how important they are to you.

“I Genuinely Appreciate You"

Although I do think you can’t go wrong by thanking your partner for all the good they do for you and bring to your life, I also think that telling them that you truly genuinely appreciate them brings that gratefulness to another level. You’re not just thankful, but appreciative, too. People love to be appreciated.

"I’m Sorry"

Want to really let your partner know you love them? Admit when you’re wrong and say you’re sorry.

"I’ll Always Have Your Back"

Not only are you saying that your partner will forever have your support, but if push comes to shove, they can count on you being in their corner. You’re a team; it’s you two against the world.

"No One Challenges Me The Way You Do"

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Thank you …Similar to being one’s inspiration, people also want to know that they challenge their partner.

No one wants to be in a relationship with someone where there is no stimulation of the minds. Telling your partner that they give you a run for your money, is telling them you love them.

Want to add word or two? 

Words that promise a surprise:

In modern times we've all become a little jaded, and we're all on the lookout for anything truly unexpected, especially so we can share it with our friends and on social media.

These words tell their partner that what's coming next will surprise them in some way. Here again, do not use these words unless whatever follows truly lives up to that promise:

If he’s not treating you well when you’re first dating, know that it won’t get any better as time goes on…

Your comment ….? 

Also ‘he just not that into you’ is a thing. If he wants to make you a priority in his life, he will.

If he makes a million excuses why he can’t see you or make time for you, just move on. You will save yourself a lot of wasted time and heartache.

The person you date should make you a better version of you, not the opposite (i.e., he should bring out your best, not your worst).

Nobody is able to read your mind. You have to communicate.

Your feelings are valid (most of the time) and you should feel free to talk to your SO/whomever you’re dating.

It is okay to protect yourself. If you encounter a toxic person, you are by no means required to keep them in your life.

DO NOT CHANGE YOURSELF TO PLEASE SOMEONE ELSE. This is important. You will change as you grow up but don’t change on the account of someone else.

Arguments will happen. They’re inevitable sometimes. Make sure you are emotionally and mentally sound enough to handle it if it happens.

Sometimes you date good people that you just don’t have chemistry with.

You deserve someone you get fireworks with.

Don’t just settle.

Don’t be afraid to hurt somebody’s feelings.

It’ll suck, but staying with the wrong person will suck more.

You want to have the right person come into your life.

Don’t compare your timeline to anyone else’s.

Don’t feel like you’re missing out on something because all of your friends are getting married or having babies before you.

Also you are so much younger than you think you are.

Don’t let anyone convince you that your relationship needs to come before yourself, school, work, your mental health, your future, your other relationships, etc. It’s so important to find balance between relationships and other parts of your life!