They make you cry. Don't they???

Ever tried peeling an onion??

As layer on layer gets peeled, we cannot help tears drip down our eyes.

Ever had a breakup??

It’s like getting thrown into a pitfall of thoughts, there’s rarely a way out!!

The reality disappoints in both cases.

ONIONS, SELF AWARENESS AND BREAKUPS!!        

Let’s try to understand this through an example.

Just assume that you’ve had a terrible breakup. Now life’s f*cked up and oh gawddd!! Now you need a fresh start for yourself right? So let’s see how a self awareness onion helps.

Layer 1         

The first of all steps is to accept.

You gotta accept that yes, I’m sad. You gotta accept that you feel empty and hopeless and really disappointed.

Don’t be that little chick who goes around saying ‘Mujhe to farak hi nhi padta’, specially when deep inside you know how hard it has been on you.

Layer 2        

Now once having accepted your feelings, you now gotta think more on why you felt a certain emotion.

You felt sad because it was the first time somebody broke your trust or it was it the fact that you thought everything was so perfect and what happened was beyond your expectation?

You felt empty because now you have nobody around? Maybe you lost your near and dear friends and you feel alone and lonely.

You felt hopeless. Why? Because you think now you’d never get someone as better as her(him). Is it so? Or is it because you think you’ve somewhere ruined the career aspect of your life in the love making affair?

Whatever the root cause maybe, but once you’ve thought of it, you now need to do something to change it.

You have to explain it to yourself.

Okay, next time I won’t trust somebody so easily and I would better stay more in control of the situation. I need to keep a regular check if something is working or not working so that I don’t get unexpected rejections. That next time, you’d not ignore other things - your friends, your family,. your career. You would rather try to maintain a balance in the personal sphere of life. That the next time, you’d be more secured, more confident, more better. Promise some good words to yourself.

Layer 3         

The hardest of all things is to change the standard by which we measure ourselves, our values. I repeat - ‘Change the standard by which you measure yourself!.’

If you think of your beak up as some sort of a personal failure, if you think that this breakup stood as a proof that you’re not a person worth being loved or cared for, then yes you need to change your definition of personal failure. What about a new definition which says -

‘Umm, well, look.. this doesn’t makes me feel like I am a complete asshole but yes I think I gotta improvise on some parts. I think I act like unwanted shit sometimes but not always. I won’t call myself complete shit for this.‘

This is now a better definition, a newer one and something less harsh. This could make a ton of a difference. Now instead of being annoyed by the fact that you are an asshole you’d now be more focused on filling the little loopholes. Instead of being depressed you’d now be more enlightened. Instead of seeing yourself as unwanted shit, you’ve now got a better approach - telling everybody the need for a shit!!!!!

By simply changing your measurement of a particular value, you’ve now given yourself something to work upon, something more meaningful.....!!!

So what’re you waiting for??

Go peel your onion!!??